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Ready For Christmas? My Top 4 Reasons You Avoid It

christmas photoAre you ready for Christmas and the New Year?

Are you in the “Christmas spirit” this year?

Sadly, a lot of people are struggling with this because of everything we, as a nation, have had to experience (i.e, police brutality and murder, massacres, national violence, the opioid epidemic, etc.). We also cannot forget that we have our own lives to manage.

In this article, I will discuss my top 4 reasons for why most people struggle (including my new and older clients) with Christmas.

I work with families who struggle with life. I work work families, teens, and children who have been traumatized, abused, neglected, are experiencing moderate to severe mental health challenges, have been overlooked or misdiagnosed, have had bad counseling experineces, and/or are contemplating suicide. My families do not have Christmas on their minds. When I started working with some of my most complicated families, I realized what Christmas meant for them. Christmas means that they did not have the money to enjoy it. Christmas meant they did not have the family they desired to love them and expereince life with. Christmas meant just another year full of disappointments and pain.


I  believe their are 4 things most people experience around this time of year and that includes but is not limited to:

  1. “Existential discomfort”
  2. Religious questioning
  3. Spiritual Detachment
  4. Identity confusion (confusion over family role)

In the video below, I will discuss this dilemma further. In Friday’s video (on my Youtube channel), I will discuss what this looks like and how to cope with it.

What has your experience been during this time of year? Do you enjoy it? Do you avoid it?

As always, I wish you well and Happy Holidays



Ready For Christmas? My Top 4 Reasons You Avoid It

Támara Hill, MS, NCC, CCTP, LPC

Támara Hill, MS, NCC, CCTP, LPC, is a licensed therapist and internationally certified trauma professional, in private practice, who specializes in working with children and adolescents who suffer from mood disorders, trauma, and disruptive behavioral disorders. She also provides international consultations and works with some young and older adults struggling with grief & loss or life transitions. Hill strives to help clients to realize and actualize their strengths in their home environments and in their relationships within the community. She credits her career passion to a “divine calling” and is internationally recognized for corresponding literary works as well as appearances on radio and other media platforms. She is an author, family consultant, Keynote speaker, and founder of Anchored Child & Family Counseling. Visit her at Anchored-In-Knowledge or Twitter and Youtube Youtube If you are interested in scheduling a telehealth family consultation, feel free to let me know.

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Hill, T. (2018). Ready For Christmas? My Top 4 Reasons You Avoid It. Psych Central. Retrieved on August 9, 2020, from


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