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3 Tips For Managing Unstable Family During The Holiday

Christmas photoWhat’s one thing you’d like to avoid this holiday season with your family?

For most people that would be unwarranted gossip, judgmental family members, and drama. That’s not much to ask for right?

Sadly, holiday time for some families is when most of this stuff seems to happen which causes the family drama at the dinner table we all so desperately try to avoid.

In this article, I discuss ways to cope with this kind of “family crisis.” 

I have always loved Thanksgiving and Christmas time. I enjoy the days leading up to and after each holiday. It’s a beautiful time of the year for most people. But what about those families who struggle to communicate, stay balanced, and engage in the holiday with boundaries and limits. Although my mom provided a wonderful home of love and care to my siblings and I, she certainly didn’t learn this from her own parents. Sadly, my mother struggled with two psychologically and emotionally unstable parents who ruined EVERY single holiday.

What’s even sadder is that my mom isn’t the only one with this story. So many people can relate to her. As a result, I suggest preparing for your holiday in the following ways:

  1. Psychological preparation: Preparing your mind for what you may encounter.
  2. Emotional Preparation: Tuning into your own feelings and being mindful.
  3. Physical Preparation: Learning how to “work” your environment.

I explain these concepts in the video below.

What has been your experience with family and friends around this time of year?
As always, I wish you all the best.

Happy Thanksgiving!


3 Tips For Managing Unstable Family During The Holiday

Támara Hill, MS, LPC

Támara Hill, MS, NCC, CCTP, LPC, is a licensed therapist and certified trauma professional, in private practice, who specializes in working with children and adolescents who suffer from mood disorders, trauma, and disruptive behavioral disorders. She also provides international consultations and works with some young and older adults struggling with grief & loss or life transitions. Hill strives to help clients to realize and actualize their strengths in their home environments and in their relationships within the community. She credits her career passion to a “divine calling” and is internationally recognized for corresponding literary works as well as appearances on radio and other media platforms. She is an author, family consultant, and founder of and Anchored Child & Family Counseling. Visit her at Anchored-In-Knowledge or Twitter and Youtube Youtube

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APA Reference
Hill, T. (2018). 3 Tips For Managing Unstable Family During The Holiday. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 16, 2018, from


Last updated: 20 Nov 2018
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 20 Nov 2018
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