10 Signs of Dysfunction: When Dysfunction Turns Evil
How would you characterize evil? Do you feel the term is only relevant to movies?
Or do you feel the term could be applied to some relationships you have had?
Either way, it’s a rather controversial term.
About 4-5 weeks ago, on my website http://anchoredinknowledge.com I discussed behaviors and personality traits that seem to turn “evil” for those who are the victims in the relationship.
Many of us would rather not see the behaviors of someone with a mental illness to be “evil.”But the reality is that some people clearly are evil in their intentions (especially if they are diagnosed with a personality disorder such as sociopathy) and may derive gratification from their acts toward others. There is no better way, for me, to describe it than pure evil.
This article will discuss some of the actions and characteristics that can be very threatening (and downright evil) to others. I discuss part of my concept of what evil is.
Note: Please note this article is about individuals who are vindictive, harmful, and intentionally careless.
TRIGGER WARNING: The videos may be disturbing to some.
I have listed 10 things I believe makes it difficult to trust, care for, live with, and help someone with personality characteristics that harm others. These include:
- Instilling fear and discomfort in others: Do you know anyone who gets a “rush” from instilling fear? Sociopaths and inconsiderate, heartless people are good examples. It’s sickening to think that there are humans in this world who feel good about causing others to fear them. But those who enjoy this are often wounded themselves in some fashion (spiritually, emotionally/psychologically, etc). But having compassion on these people can be a trap. It is often best to keep these individuals at a distance as many tend to lack empathy.
- Trying to control: Controlling individuals are not automatically “evil.” However, there are some controlling people who will go to extreme lengths to interrupt your life and peace of mind. They will become the agents of confusion and sometimes even intimidation all in an effort to gain some kind of control over you. Many domestic violence cases would apply here.
- Manipulating and calculating: The manipulative and calculating behaviors and mind-games of Charles Manson would characterize this kind of evil. His ability to use his charm, social intelligence, and mannerisms to convince, persuade, and then ultimately harm is frightening. It worked on thousands of people and sadly, he wasn’t caught until later in his life. Documentaries insinuate that his early childhood development may have been a contributing factor to his deep-rooted evil.
- Triangulating: I define triangulation as an individual creating confusion between one or more people unintentionally or intentionally which results in confusion, unresolved hurt feelings, and anger. You can read more about it in my previous article.
- Using emotions to dominate: Have you ever heard of Munchausen Syndrome By Proxy or factitious disorder? Both conditions (which are used interchangeably) involve a parental figure creating symptoms in the child in order to receive some kind of emotional or psychological accolades or support that they personally desire. it is conceptualized as child abuse/maltreatment as opposed to a mental health condition. A recent case puts this syndrome in perspective for you.
- Destroys anything that is pleasant: Do you know someone who seems to destroy every ounce of peace and joy you (or anyone else) has access to without a real cause? Growing up I had a “friend” who would cry out of nowhere and make up stories (pathological liar) for the simple purpose of garnering attention. It wasn’t until she created division in many relationships that I said goodbye.
- Seeking to humiliate you: We can all be humiliated by people who aren’t intentionally trying to embarrass us. We can also be humiliated by people who may not care what other people think. But someone who intends to ruin your reputation or “good name” is, in my opinion, evil. Natural human emotions such as envy or jealousy, competitiveness, or a need for attention can certainly become destructive forces in the lives of someone who possesses these feelings to an extreme degree. In other words, these normal human emotions are fleeting for most people but long-lasting for others. These people often have some form of sociopathic traits.
- Stealing your identity: As stated above, some people (primarily sociopaths) tend to engage in behaviors that are completely destructive to others. Someone who tries to steal your identity and displays no empathy or regret, can certainly (in my view) be characterized as evil. What other explanation would there be for someone who blatantly destroys another and cares nothing about what they have done? We can label this person a sociopath, but a sociopath is a nice way to describe a human who is simply evil.
- Minimizing your emotions: Minimization of your emotions without any consideration for how you feel is another form of evil. Sociopaths, pathological liars, people who triangulate and create confusion without remorse can also be considered evil agents.
- Seeking to destroy you: Destruction of someone else’s life, their reputation, their peace of mind, their achievements, etc. is simply evil. Remember the movie Fatal Attraction? There you have it.
It is important that I mention that many of the above characteristics can be displayed in people who are not evil. They can be displayed in individuals who have other problems such as untreated or severe mental illness, someone with a trauma history, or someone with a personality disorder. However, in this article I am simply referring to individuals who are born with characteristics that are complex, destructive, and uncaring.
Below I have posted two videos
What do you think about these parents?
*(Please disregard the later portions of this video as it is not in regards to these parents)
To read more about this despicable story, click here for an update: http://people.com/crime/daddyofive-youtube-parents-face-10-years-charged-child-neglect/.
What has been your experience with this topic? Would you be able to identify someone who could be dangerous to you?
As always, looking forward to hearing from you,
All the best
Hill, T. (2018). 10 Signs of Dysfunction: When Dysfunction Turns Evil. Psych Central. Retrieved on January 23, 2018, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/caregivers/2017/12/10-signs-of-dysfunction-when-dysfunction-turns-evil/