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Emotional Chaos: 5 Signs of Borderline Personality Disorder

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Do you know someone with borderline personality disorder? Were you diagnosed yourself? If so,what has been one of the most unsettling features of the diagnosis? For many of my young female clients, the most terrifying part of the disorder, for them, is the emotional chaos and disconnectedness that can occur in moments of intense emotions.

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a very challenging and complex disorder to treat. Dr. Blaise...
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Avoiding Toxic People: Gas-Lighting & Love-Bombing

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Do you know a toxic person? Have you experienced the condemnation, the confusion, the hurt, the blood-sucking behaviors and personalities, and the mind-games of the toxic person? If so, join the millions of people who have. Sadly, most people experience some kind of truly toxic person in their lives at some point. We're not immune from experiencing toxic people. In fact,...
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Suicide: Why You Should Re-Evaluate “13 Reasons Why”

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Have you heard about the new series"13 Reasons Why" which discusses adolescent suicide and could be seen as romanticizing the idea of suicide? If not, I discuss some of it in this article and encourage you to explore what it means for you.

One of the things I found myself frightened by, while training to be a psychotherapist, is the reality that so many within our population (primarily adolescents) seek...
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Toxic People: 15 Things You Need To Escape

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How would you describe a toxic person? How would you identify them in your life? For many of us, the toxicity of a person may not be evident until the last minute. Until the moment when the "honeymoon period" or "love-bombing" phases are over. In other words, the toxicity of an unhealthy person may not become visible to you until you and the other person within the relationship begin to relax...
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12 Signs You Need To Leave Your Therapist

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Would you know when to leave your therapist or the agency where you are receiving counseling or mental health services? For most people, therapy can be difficult to adjust to and good therapists are just too hard to find. Some people get so discouraged with the process of finding a good therapist that they settle. Would you do this? Are you doing this? If so, this...
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Destructive Personalities: Can You Spot Them?

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Do you consider yourself to have a second sense? A strong intuition that sends up red flags when communicating with others? Is it typically correct? If so, consider yourself blessed. Most people in today's society are trusting. We all want to trust each other, get along, and be altruistic. That's wonderful. That's a heaven on earth. But the reality is that we are not all made the same....
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8 Ways To Cope With An Abusive Narcissist

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What would you do if you were being abused (physically, emotionally, psychologically, or sexually) by someone you knew or thought you knew? Let's say that person is emotionally and psychologically abusive and demands that you meet their every need or expectation. How would you cope with this?

For some individuals struggling with an abusive spouse, parent, sibling, boss, etc., getting away isn't always as easy as they would...
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10 Common Behaviors Of The Abuser

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Do you think you were abused as a child or know someone who was? If you had to identify the behaviors that would be categorized as abusive could you identify them? For most people, identifying abusive behaviors or words is easy to do. Many of my clients identify abuse as stemming from a cruel hatred for someone else. Other clients have discussed abuse as being anything that is...
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5 Ways To Think Of The Narcissist

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If you had to forgive a narcissist could you? What if that narcissist manipulated you and/or attempted to harm you in some way? What about if that narcissist is a spouse, a parent, a close friend, a family member, etc? Could you forgive?

For a lot of us in our relationships with others once we are "burned" by a person that is the only chance that person would get....
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