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10 Unbelievable Behaviors Of The Narcissist

*This article is "sticky" - it will remain at the top of this blog even when newer posts are published.

Do you know what narcissistic personality disorder is? Would you be able to spot it if you had to? For most people, their belief is that narcissism is "easy" to spot because laymen and pop psychology characterize narcissism as selfish ambition, arrogance, cockiness, inconsiderate of others, and a strong desire to...

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Do You Understand Trauma? 7 Things We Tend To Ignore

Trauma is one terrifying event after the other. It's like one heart-beat skip after the other.

How do you feel about the recent deportation of almost 2,000 children separated/deported from their families at the  border?

Without getting buried too deep in political thought, how would you feel if your child were snatched from your care? How might your parents feel?

In the wake of all of the deportations and traumatic separations of foreign children and their parents,...

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Suicide: 17 Truths I’ve Learned With Experience

On average, every 2 weeks, someone jumps from San Fransisco's 4, 200 foot long Golden Gate Bridge. The Golden Gate Bridge is considered to be the "prime location" for carrying out a suicide. Why? Because the bridge not only sits high up above the waters and is 4, 200 feet long, but is also known to have "assisted" in the suicide of at least 3,000 or more people, according to research. This is a...

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Inter-generational Trauma: 6 Ways It Affects Families

Have you ever heard of the term inter-generational trauma? What about "generational curse?"

Inter-generational trauma is a concept developed to help explain years of generational challenges within families. It is the transmission (or sending down to younger generations) of the oppressive or traumatic effects of a historical event. For example, a great grandmother who was placed in a concentration camp in Germany may have learned to cope by "cutting off" her emotions. Because...

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9 Signs Of Traumatic Emotional Bonding – part 2

Traumatic bonding is an old term. Sadly, it is "new" for a lot of people because it isn't spoken about as often as it should be.

That's a problem.

Last week we began the discussion of traumatic bonding. We discussed what it is and some of the things that influence and perpetuate it.

In today's discussion, we will look at 9 common signs of being emotionally and psychologically bonded to the abuser.

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Bonded To The Abuser: 9 Signs Of Traumatic Bonding

Traumatic bonding. Neglect. Psychological abuse. What comes to mind when you hear these terms?

Do you find yourself picturing a loved one in your mind?

Are you thinking about an experience that still hasn't left you?

After giving a presentation at a conference, in 2014, of parents and families who have lived through years of abuse, I recognized that not many people understood the full definition of traumatic bonding. The ones who did know what the term...

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Borderline Personality: 8 Confusing Symptoms That Leave Us Guessing

What do you think of when you hear the term "borderline?"

What do you think of the term borderline? For most people, borderline signifies split person," "switchable," "unstable," or "unsure  behavior pattern. It isn't always easy to identify the disorder, especially among laymen.

This article will discuss some common signs of BPD that often confuses those in relation to the person with BPD.

I will discuss common BPD symptoms and codependency in the included videos as well.
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4 Benefits Of Painful Experience


Have you noticed that some of the most compassionate, understanding, modest, and intuitive people seem to be those who have suffered, been oppressed, or are in constant search for life’s ultimate meaning? I have and I find that it is an interesting phenomenon.

As stated in a previous article, it was not until rain and “dark-valleys” appeared in my life that I grew and could see my potential.

This article will discuss the upside of pain and will...

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Mass Murderers: 9 Reasons They Slip Through The Cracks (Video)

Did you know that severe/untreated mental illness accounts for between 5% and 15% of community violence, according to the Treatment Advocacy Center?

Did you know that prisons across the nation are filled with those who have severe mental illnesses?

It's a fact that severe and untreated mental illness can result in criminal behavior. We cannot, for fear of stigma, minimize this. We do NEED to ensure we provide clear and correct facts.

In this article, I...

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10 Ways To Live With The Explosive & Labile Personality

Do you know someone who tends to take every little thing you say personally and holds a long-term grudge against you?

What do you think the problem is? Is it the offense itself or could it possibly be the personality of the offended?

Sometimes it's both. The negative effects of living with a rageful, angry, selfish, and domineering person can be significant.

The emotional, psychological, and physiological effects can also be great. A raging...

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Transference: 13 Reasons Your “Connection” Could Be False

Have you ever heard of the term transference? Do you know what it means?

Would you know you are experiencing it if you came across someone who reminded you of someone else?

When I ask these questions during my group seminars for parents I often get blank stares. Those blank stares typically occur because the parents either don't know what transference is, have never heard of it before, or has little insight into if and when...

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