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10 Unbelievable Behaviors Of The Narcissist


Do you know what narcissistic personality disorder is? Would you be able to spot it if you had to? For most people, their belief is that narcissism is "easy" to spot because laymen and pop psychology characterize narcissism as selfish ambition, arrogance, cockiness, inconsiderate of others, and a strong desire to be at the "top of the game."

But narcissism is truly difficult to spot in everyday life because some of the kindest and nicest people could be a narcissist hiding under a facade. Narcissism doesn't always shine through the moment you meet someone. In fact, narcissism may not fully bloom until you've married the person, accepted a job from a company led by a narcissist, or after many years of knowing the person. In reality, narcissistic personality traits are often hidden by the person's ability to "act" ways they know other people like.

Although you are probably familiar with the millions of articles already written on this topic, this article will highlight the most dangerous narcissistic traits you should avoid in your life. 


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Surviving The Chronic Liar: 5 Things To Do

Do you know someone who lies frequently about any and everything?

Have you caught someone in a few lies and wonder why they continue to engage in the behavior?

If so, you are obviously dealing with a pathological liar.

What most people fail to recognize about pathological liars is that they often lack the ability to empathize with others (walk in your shoes), feel guilty about their behavior, and have trouble controlling their innate impulse to lie. For most of us, it is very difficult to lie with a straight face and quite easy to feel guilty about the lie. But for someone with pathological behaviors, it is rather easy for them to lie while exhibiting behaviors and emotions that make the lie believable.

What is most interesting about pathological liars is that many of them know how to control their emotions in such a way that lying can look like the truth to us.

This article will explore ways to protect yourself from pathological liars and identify their modus operandi.


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6 Delusions You’ll Never Want To Encounter

Have you ever spoken to someone with delusions?

Would you know a delusion if you encountered one?

What about a person experiencing a hallucination?

If you found yourself shaking your head "no" to these questions, that's okay because you are not alone.

This article will engage you in exploring the experience of those who struggle with delusions. 


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6 Ways Intergenerational Trauma Impacts Families

Have you ever heard of the term inter-generational trauma? What about "generational curse?"

Inter-generational trauma is a concept developed to help explain years of generational challenges within families. It is the transmission (or sending down to younger generations) of the oppressive or traumatic effects of a historical event. For example, a great grandmother who was placed in a concentration camp in Germany may have learned to cope by "cutting off" her emotions. Because of this, this grandmother may interact with her family in an emotionally distant fashion. That relationship may be tumultuous to say the least.

The transmission of the historical trauma may begin to negatively affect her grandchildren and her grandchildren's children, etc., leading to generations of emotional distance, defensive behaviors around expression of emotions, and denial.

Inter-generational problems including oppression can often be found in families that have been traumatized in severe forms (e.g., sexual abuse, rape, murder, etc). This article will highlight some of the ways inter-generational trauma can affect younger generations and families.



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5 Unhealthy Emotional Attachments

What were your thoughts when you read this article title?

You might believe that attachment has nothing to do with mental health but it most certainly does. In fact, some people believe that topics about attachment only have something to do with newborn babies or toddlers. But the reality is that attachment is a natural phenomenon that occurs in every human relationship and begins during the first few years of life.

Some people believe that attachment begins as early as in the womb between baby and mother. Our early life relationships often set the stage for how we will function within future relationships and will affect the boundaries we employ in each relationship. Research has suggested that healthy boundaries often include the ability to attach and detach when appropriate, foresee relational dangers, and employ appropriate boundaries. Unhealthy (or poor) attachment includes the inability to be independent when necessary, high levels of fear and anxiety when separated from a relationship, and very poor boundaries. This article will discuss how poor attachment correlates to unhealthy relationships in the long-run. This article will also highlight 5 unhealthy boundaries, often found in individuals with personality disorders or trauma histories, that we all should be aware of.



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Spotting The Trouble-Maker

Do you know someone who takes pleasure in dragging any and everyone down with spreading rumors or lies, starting arguments and getting everyone involved, or keeping problems going by including people who should not be included?

If so, you are not alone. In fact, triangulation is something that emotionally unstable individuals use to either manipulate or confuse a situation. In some cases, the triangulation is unintentional but habitual. Either way, it's problematic.

Have you ever heard of the term "triangulate" or "triangulation?" If not, that's okay because it's typically a concept used in trauma-informed therapy. The term is used to describe an individual who creates drama using 3 or more people in a situation.

This article will explain triangulation and help you explore the problems that result from someone who engages in this behavior.  


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Triangulation: 2 Practical Explanations

Do you know someone who takes pleasure in dragging any and everyone down with spreading rumors or lies, starting arguments and getting everyone involved, or keeping problems going by including people who should not be included?

If so, you are not alone.

Triangulation is something that emotionally unstable individuals use to either manipulate or confuse a situation. In some cases, the triangulation is unintentional but habitual. If you have never heard of the term "triangulate" or "triangulation?"

If not, that's okay because it's typically a concept used in and mainly used in trauma-informed therapy. The term is typically used to describe an individual who creates drama or confusion using 3 or more people in a situation.

This article will explain triangulation and help you explore the problems that result from someone who engages in this behavior. 


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3 Myths & Challenges Of Family Therapy

Family therapy can truly become either a saving grace or a boxing ring. For many of my clients, it's a boxing ring full of traps, snakes, confusion, and drama. No matter how much I attempt to encourage my young client's to give it a try and be courageous, the session drama becomes a living, breathing soap opera.

Have you ever  been in family therapy or wondered what it would be like to attend a family session?

This article will address some questions about family therapy and explore some common myths.


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Traumatic Experience:7 Signs You Are Stuck


Have you ever experienced a traumatic situation?

Trauma is a powerful word.  Many people almost stagger when I mention that I believe they have experienced "trauma." When clients hear me label some of their most disturbing and unhealthy experiences as "trauma" they look puzzled.

Interestingly, some of my previous clients have come into my office already labeling their experiences as traumatic and seemed to be fully aware of the fact that they have experienced trauma. But a select few shy away from the term.

I've concluded that most reservations is because trauma is difficult to understand. It is also difficult to heal from. Most people believe that because the event is past them, so too is the effects of the trauma. This is often furthest from the truth.

This article will focus on 7 ways trauma negatively affects us and offer tips on how to cope or move forward. 


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Emotionally Unavailable Parents: 7 Ways They Impact You

Do you know an emotionally avoidant and detached parent/guardian?

If so, what makes that person so emotionally unavailable? Is it a mental illness, personality disorder, or something else such as a job, career goal, or educational endeavor? Whatever it is, having an emotionally unavailable parent or guardian can lead to a lifelong journey of unstable or failed relationships, emotional neediness, empty voids, identity confusion, poor attachment to others,  low self-esteem and self-efficacy (the feeling of mastery), etc.

Research has identified the importance of all infants and developing children having an appropriate, warm, and loving attachment to a mother figure during the developmental years. Without an appropriate, warm, and loving parental figure, children are likely to develop multiple personality, emotional, and psychological difficulties. For many of my clients, the absence of a loving parental figure has resulted in an increase in psychiatric symptoms, school and academic difficulties, fear of abandonment, and many other challenges.

This article will discuss the aftereffects or consequences of growing up without an emotionally available parent.