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10 Unbelievable Behaviors Of The Narcissist

*This article is "sticky" - it will remain at the top of this blog even when newer posts are published.

Do you know what narcissistic personality disorder is? Would you be able to spot it if you had to? For most people, their belief is that narcissism is "easy" to spot because laymen and pop psychology characterize narcissism as selfish ambition, arrogance, cockiness, inconsiderate of others, and a strong desire to...


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Defeating Pathological Liars: 5 Things You Must Do



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Do you know someone who lies frequently about any and everything?

Have you caught someone in a few lies and wonder why they continue to engage in the behavior?

If so, you are obviously dealing with a pathological liar.

What most people fail to recognize about pathological liars is that they often lack the ability to empathize with others (walk in your shoes), feel guilty about their behavior, and have...


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4th Of July: 10 Reasons It Isn’t A Celebration For Many

Are you excited for the 4th of July?

Are you looking forward to all of the American traditions we love to engage in year after year?

Independence Day has a new meaning every single year. It has a new meaning for different populations as well.

In this article, I discuss 10 reasons why Independence Day may not be a day of celebration for everyone this year. I also include a link to a recent video...


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Thinking Outside The Box: 7 Common Distortions To Change

When someone treats you with disdain and uses every verbal attack they can think to use on you, do you walk away thinking "this person hates me, they think I am completely worthless?"

What about if your boss walked by you without smiling or greeting you after you just applied to another job? Would you think "he completely hates me? "He knows I'm trying to leave even if I didn't tell him."

If so, have you...


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Do You Understand Trauma? 7 Things We Tend To Ignore

Trauma is one terrifying event after the other. It's like one heart-beat skip after the other.

How do you feel about the recent deportation of almost 2,000 children separated/deported from their families at the  border?

Without getting buried too deep in political thought, how would you feel if your child were snatched from your care? How might your parents feel?

In the wake of all of the deportations and traumatic separations of foreign children and their parents,...


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Suicide: 17 Truths I’ve Learned With Experience

On average, every 2 weeks, someone jumps from San Fransisco's 4, 200 foot long Golden Gate Bridge. The Golden Gate Bridge is considered to be the "prime location" for carrying out a suicide. Why? Because the bridge not only sits high up above the waters and is 4, 200 feet long, but is also known to have "assisted" in the suicide of at least 3,000 or more people, according to research. This is a...


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Inter-generational Trauma: 6 Ways It Affects Families

Have you ever heard of the term inter-generational trauma? What about "generational curse?"

Inter-generational trauma is a concept developed to help explain years of generational challenges within families. It is the transmission (or sending down to younger generations) of the oppressive or traumatic effects of a historical event. For example, a great grandmother who was placed in a concentration camp in Germany may have learned to cope by "cutting off" her emotions. Because...


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9 Signs Of Traumatic Emotional Bonding – part 2

Traumatic bonding is an old term. Sadly, it is "new" for a lot of people because it isn't spoken about as often as it should be.

That's a problem.

Last week we began the discussion of traumatic bonding. We discussed what it is and some of the things that influence and perpetuate it.

In today's discussion, we will look at 9 common signs of being emotionally and psychologically bonded to the abuser.


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Bonded To The Abuser: 9 Signs Of Traumatic Bonding

Traumatic bonding. Neglect. Psychological abuse. What comes to mind when you hear these terms?

Do you find yourself picturing a loved one in your mind?

Are you thinking about an experience that still hasn't left you?

After giving a presentation at a conference, in 2014, of parents and families who have lived through years of abuse, I recognized that not many people understood the full definition of traumatic bonding. The ones who did know what the term...


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Borderline Personality: 8 Confusing Symptoms That Leave Us Guessing

What do you think of when you hear the term "borderline?"

What do you think of the term borderline? For most people, borderline signifies split person," "switchable," "unstable," or "unsure  behavior pattern. It isn't always easy to identify the disorder, especially among laymen.

This article will discuss some common signs of BPD that often confuses those in relation to the person with BPD.

I will discuss common BPD symptoms and codependency in the included videos as well.
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4 Benefits Of Painful Experience


Have you noticed that some of the most compassionate, understanding, modest, and intuitive people seem to be those who have suffered, been oppressed, or are in constant search for life’s ultimate meaning? I have and I find that it is an interesting phenomenon.

As stated in a previous article, it was not until rain and “dark-valleys” appeared in my life that I grew and could see my potential.

This article will discuss the upside of pain and will...


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