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Adults Bullying

When the Bullies are Home for the Holidays Too

I hope everyone reading in the United States had a happy and healthy Thanksgiving Holiday last week! When I thought about what to write after taking the holiday week off, I contemplated the numerous discussions I had both in and out of the consulting room regarding people's varied feelings about being with family during the holidays.

Families bring up powerful feelings and interpersonal dynamics. It's inevitable that old family dynamics are stirred...
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Bullying

Share Your Story at the Ophelia Project Blog

I am a huge admirer of the  Ophelia Project and the work that they do. I  received an email from them announcing the launch of their new blog! I was excited to hear about the blog because the content is of stories of student's experiences of relational aggression. The tag line to their blog is, "Because everyone deserves to feel safe and accepted."

I conceptualize relational aggression as a different type of bullying. The Ophelia Project defines...
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“Beating the Bully:” Beat by Hurricane Sandy

As I'm sure you know the Mid-East Atlantic Coast has been pummeled by Hurricane Sandy. I am based in New York City and it has been quite difficult to manage! I am blessed that my home is safe, and while my private practice office in Union Square remains in the dark , the Freedom Institute office is running with a skeleton (and DEDICATED) staff!

I hope to be fully up and running by...
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How to Spot a Bully, a Tool for Educators and Mental Health Care Professionals

If I had to identify the biggest challenge for those of us who work with young people is helping students identify bullying behavior and coming up with solutions. Elsbeth Martindale, PsyD, has created a wonderful tool, How to Spot a Bully card deck. Dr. Martindale reached out to me (and was generous enough to send me a deck for my review). I was so impressed with How to Spot a Bully...
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Mean Girls Mean Chronic Disease

You may have seen my post on the long term health risks related to bullying  over the summer. A new study by Michael Murphy of the University of British Columbia in Vancouver, Canada, has linked repeated experiences of teen rejection to a decrease in strength in one's immune system.  The study focused on teen-aged girls and not surprisingly. While many students discuss bullying this type  - social rejection or what...
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Bullying and Beer: The Relationship Between Bullying and Early Substance Use

Through the school-based substance abuse prevention work we offer at Freedom Institute  I constantly connect the dots between bullying and early substance use. How are two seemingly separate topics woven in together? Bullying behavior, like early substance use, can be viewed as a means for young people to gain social status, manage feelings, and indicate that a young person may need more parental attention. 

When I meet with students we...
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“Bully: An Action Plan for Teachers, Parents, and Communities…” On Sale Now

The film "Bully" propelled this topic into the forefront of our nation's mind. Bullying can no longer be minimized, disregarded and ignored. The dialogue continues on how to best address this issue in school communities. More and more resources are available to help educators, students and families address this topic. My belief is that regardless of what programs a school community puts in place,...
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