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Bullying

Archive: How to Spot a Bully, a Tool for Educators and Mental Health Care Professionals

"Beating the Bully" will be taking a holiday break until January. I'll be reposting some of the most popular articles from the past year until then. Happy holidays! 

If I had to identify the biggest challenge for those of us who work with young people is helping students identify bullying behavior and coming up with solutions. Elsbeth Martindale, PsyD, has created a wonderful tool, How to Spot a Bully card deck. Dr. Martindale reached out...
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Bullying

Archive: Say, “Ohm…” Yoga as a Means to Prevent Bullying

"Beating the Bully" will be taking a holiday break until January. I'll be reposting some of the most popular articles from the past year until then. Happy holidays! 

As a yoga practitioner for 10 years I was delighted to read this post about yoga as a prevention tool against student violence. Rob Schware interviewed Dee Marie, who founded, Calming Kids (CK): Creating a Non-Violent World. CK has run pilot groups to prove that...
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Children and Teens

Archive: When Bullies are Home for the Holidays Too

"Beating the Bully" will be taking a holiday break until January. I'll be reposting some of the most popular articles from the past year until then. Happy holidays! 

I hope everyone reading in the United States had a happy and healthy Thanksgiving Holiday last week! When I thought about what to write after taking the holiday week off, I contemplated the numerous discussions I had both in and out of the consulting room regarding people's...
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Adults Bullying

Bullying in the Workplace, Where are the Bystanders?

A new Finnish study was released this Thursday indicating that adults who are victims of workplace bullying are more likely to be prescribed antidepressants. The study was released by BMJ. What was particularly striking was that the witnesses of workplace bullying were also adversely affected, ABC news highlighted that the study indicated that
Even witnessing bullying can have health effects, according to the study. Men and women who observed workplace bullying were one...
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Bullying

Bullying or Discipline?

Two boys at Westwood High School in Mesa, AZ were caught fighting and sent to the Principal's office. Nothing out of the ordinary so far, right? But how Principal Tim Richards disciplined them is out of the ordinary. The boys were given the option: be suspended or hold hands in the middle of the school campus at lunch time.

The boys choose to hold hands.

What ensued for the boys was...
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Adults Bullying

When the Bullies are Home for the Holidays Too

I hope everyone reading in the United States had a happy and healthy Thanksgiving Holiday last week! When I thought about what to write after taking the holiday week off, I contemplated the numerous discussions I had both in and out of the consulting room regarding people's varied feelings about being with family during the holidays.

Families bring up powerful feelings and interpersonal dynamics. It's inevitable that old family dynamics are stirred...
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Bullying

Share Your Story at the Ophelia Project Blog

I am a huge admirer of the  Ophelia Project and the work that they do. I  received an email from them announcing the launch of their new blog! I was excited to hear about the blog because the content is of stories of student's experiences of relational aggression. The tag line to their blog is, "Because everyone deserves to feel safe and accepted."

I conceptualize relational aggression as a different type of bullying. The Ophelia Project defines...
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Bullying

Bullying and Beer: The Relationship Between Bullying and Early Substance Use

Through the school-based substance abuse prevention work we offer at Freedom Institute  I constantly connect the dots between bullying and early substance use. How are two seemingly separate topics woven in together? Bullying behavior, like early substance use, can be viewed as a means for young people to gain social status, manage feelings, and indicate that a young person may need more parental attention. 

When I meet with students we...
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Bullying

Say, “Ohm….” Yoga as a Means to Prevent Bullying

As a yoga practitioner for 10 years I was delighted to read this post about yoga as a prevention tool against student violence. Rob Schware interviewed Dee Marie, who founded, Calming Kids (CK): Creating a Non-Violent World. CK has run pilot groups to prove that yoga indeed can help young people!

A tenant of yoga that I learned early on in my practice was compassion - compassion for myself,...
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Bullying

Back to School and Back to Bullies? Not This Year!

The weeks following Labor Day bring the start of a new school year. For some students, there is a palpable excitement to return back to school, to see friends and swap summer vacation stories and meeting new teachers. For others though, the there is a fearful hope that maybe this year is the year things will be different.  Since bullying is in the forefront of public consciousness, let's work to make our...
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