33 thoughts on “Resiliency: Bouncing Back from Adversity

  • January 2, 2012 at 8:23 pm

    Looking forward to this blog!!!

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    • January 2, 2012 at 11:29 pm

      Hi Kelley,
      Thanks so much for your warm welcome! I’m looking forward to more conversations with you!

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  • January 2, 2012 at 8:36 pm

    Thank you so much for this great blog, Bobbi. I think it will provide much needed information, education and support for helping all of us develop more resiliency, whether it be on an emotional, mental, physical or spiritual level, so that we can face life’s challenges with greater ease, compassion, grace, flexibility, wisdom and patience. I look forward to following your blog.

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    • January 2, 2012 at 11:32 pm

      Hi Bernie,
      Thanks so much! I look forward to sharing our knowledge and experiences so we can all learn from each other. This is a big component of becoming more resilient!

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  • January 2, 2012 at 9:35 pm

    I don’t think I have resiliency. I was dx with BPD and due to the disorder it may be why I don’t.
    I get overwhelmed with things and become defeated. I have been in therapy and I am better but not that much.

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    • January 2, 2012 at 11:40 pm

      Hey Sonjia,
      Thanks for chiming in here. I would really encourage you to not give up in developing resiliency. Remember, “developing” is the operative word here – it’s a process. I imagine you are more resilient than you think, otherwise you probably wouldn’t be taking care of yourself by looking at helpful sites like PsychCentral.

      Maybe you can try a different route to developing resiliency that you haven’t tried yet – being kind to yourself. Take a look at this post on my website’s blog for some ideas about that.

      Have mercy on yourself and have faith. I’ll hold those things for you until you’re ready.

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  • January 2, 2012 at 9:58 pm

    Ive benn suffering from major depression for 12/13 years now. It’s been now put in treatment resistant diagnosis. I’ve been on almost everything. Tried almost everything to get better. Recently I had to stop all meds to start an MAOI for the first time. It’s been really really really hard. I was so close to trying to kill myself yesterday from the mental pain. Today is better. Do you honestly think this blog can help me and how?

    Thank you.

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    • January 2, 2012 at 11:45 pm

      Hi Evan,
      Thanks for being courageous enough to share your story here. I’m sorry you’re going through such a hard time right now. My favorite clinical phrase for depression is this: It sucks. Sometimes all you can do is get through one hour, one minute at a time. Even when you feel like you’re only able to crawl, you’re still moving forward. And, you know what? Even if you get bogged down to the point where you can’t move at all, that’s okay, too. Please be kind to yourself and make sure you call for help immediately when you’re feeling suicidal.

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  • January 3, 2012 at 11:21 am

    Looking forward to reading this blog! As a counselor, I look forward to reading more about resilience, not only to help my clients, but also for myself!

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    • January 3, 2012 at 5:45 pm

      Thanks, KC! I think you’ll find it practical and helpful for you and your clients.

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  • January 3, 2012 at 11:56 am

    Welcome to the blog family here at PC… Humm the becoming comfortable with failure idea will really work well for me. As I tell all the bloggers if there is a cartoon on my site you like then feel free to use it in a post. Just credit me with a link. Thanks.

    Chato

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    • January 3, 2012 at 5:44 pm

      Thanks for the warm welcome, Chato!

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  • January 3, 2012 at 1:11 pm

    Hi Bobbi,
    This looks an important addition to the PsychCentral blogs-something everyone can relate to. Welcome!
    The Therapy Soup bloggers

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    • January 3, 2012 at 5:44 pm

      Thanks very much for the welcome, Therapy Soup bloggers!

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  • January 3, 2012 at 3:41 pm

    The topic of resilience has interested me for a number of years. Why do some people go through horrible life events and come through them intact, while others cannot recover? I am especially interested in the area of physical disability. As an LCSW and a psychologist, I see this in my private practice all the time. I look forward to reading your blog on a regular basis. Thanks.

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    • January 3, 2012 at 5:43 pm

      Hi Arlene,
      Thanks so much for your comment! Resilience is a very interesting and complex topic – one researchers have a hard time even defining (Process, trait, or outcome.) Being a bit of a research nerd, I will cover new areas of research as we go along. Thanks for the suggestion about the area of resiliency around physical disability. I wrote a piece for KevinMd.com that you may want to look at for a short story about what a client taught me about this. You can find it here.

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  • January 3, 2012 at 10:36 pm

    I’m looking forward to reading your blog. I’d always felt I was pretty resilient until I hit the “stressor that broke the camel’s back.” I’m working my out of the resulting depression, but am struggling a bit with regaining my resiliency. The ball is filling with air, but still bouncing a bit unpredictably. It’ll be good to read more about best practices.

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    • January 4, 2012 at 8:25 pm

      Hi Jenny,
      Yes, sometimes life throws us such a huge curveball that we not only strike out, but we get conked on the head by it, too! I’m glad to hear that you are working your way back and, remember, it’s really okay when it takes awhile to get all of our air back. Looking forward to more conversations with you!

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  • January 4, 2012 at 8:56 am

    I am also interested in how persons with disabilities thrive after sometimes tragic situations. Thank you for posting…I will share

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    • January 4, 2012 at 8:23 pm

      Thanks, Marti, I’m interested in your experience with resiliency, too, so please keep commenting as new posts come out!

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  • January 4, 2012 at 12:25 pm

    How to you bounce back from something that you don’t feel is resolved?
    I was working for my husband’s family. My boss/hubby’s cousin, stole money from me. then he took my work from me for himself so he could pay me back over time. I needed the money then. While other things were also going on, I went to his father (part owner of the biz) about some of the more serious things. My mother in law jumped in the middle of it and called my boss and screamed at him when she found out I didn’t eat for 2 days because I didn’t have money for food. I in turn got fired, but I had to find out from a third party (gossip). No one from the company ever told I was fired or why. It still feels so open ended that I’m having trouble getting past it. It was also a very psychologically abusive atmosphere there. I’m afraid I won’t ever bounce back from the damage that it’s done.

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    • January 4, 2012 at 8:20 pm

      Hi Lynette,
      Thanks for reading my blog. This particular situation you are describing sounds too complex to be addressed in detail here. I think the best thing for you is to get some support and problem-solving help with either trusted friends or family members or a good therapist. It sounds like you are still feeling really raw about the situation and may need some time to heal and process what has happened. Remember, sometimes it takes awhile to bounce back from things, so try to be patient while you’re gathering up some support from others.

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  • January 4, 2012 at 1:11 pm

    Really looking forward to following your blog!
    I live with depression and I’ve recognised that resiliency
    is something I’m lacking in.

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    • January 4, 2012 at 8:15 pm

      Hi Marie,
      I bet you’re more resilient than you think! Just because you live with depression doesn’t mean you’re not resilient, it means you live with depression! Thank you for reading my blog and I’m looking forward to future conversations with you as we tackle topics like being resilient around depression.

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  • January 4, 2012 at 3:02 pm

    This sounds like something I could really benefit from. I have suffered from depression many years and have done well with therapy and medications, but I still have episodes that I struggle through and often feel like giving up. And that makes me feel worse because then I feel like a failure.

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    • January 4, 2012 at 8:13 pm

      Hi Shabur,

      Thanks for sharing about your experience with depression. I’ve struggled with it, too, and in so doing, have learned NOT to struggle with it. I work on it, I do what I can for it, but I try very hard not to struggle with it or it wins. Know what I mean?

      As for feeling like giving up, we all feel that way sometimes. Try not to equate how you feel with who you really are. Just because you feel like a failure sometimes doesn’t mean you are a failure.

      I’m looking forward to conversing with you more as I post more about resiliency. Hang in there!

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  • January 5, 2012 at 1:11 am

    Wow a blog on bouncebak.Great.Longback(1980) in one of the group sessions my teacher/trainer said the greatest quality iam having is resiliency.In our life journey ,there are peaks and troughs,and the quality of resilience makes you get up up fast from a trough and move on knowing well you may again fall .

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    • January 5, 2012 at 1:19 am

      Thanks for reading my blog!

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  • January 5, 2012 at 9:13 am

    Welcome Bobbi to the PC community! I am looking forward to reading more about how we can cope better with the difficulties in our lives.
    All the best to you and your readers
    Gerti Schoen
    The Gentle Self

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    • January 5, 2012 at 12:16 pm

      Thanks very much for the welcome, Gerti! I’m looking forward to reading your blog as well!

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  • January 5, 2012 at 8:37 pm

    What an interesting topic and I look forward to reading your blog. I am still amazed at my son’s resiliency in recovering from severe OCD and would love to be able to “bottle it” for all of the future hurdles our family may face.

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    • January 5, 2012 at 8:39 pm

      Hi Janet,

      I am looking forward to hearing more of your story. Please keep reading and joining in the conversation here! Thanks for your kind words!

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  • August 28, 2018 at 7:45 pm

    The next time I read a blog, I hope that it doesnt disappoint me as a lot as this one. I imply, I do know it was my choice to read, but I really thought youd have one thing interesting to say. All I hear is a bunch of whining about something that you possibly can fix if you happen to werent too busy in search of attention.

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