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Adversity

What NOT to Say to a Grieving Person

"I'm afraid I'll say the wrong thing."

Have you ever thought this before you call a friend who has just lost someone to death?

I'm pretty sure most of us have.

Especially if you haven't experienced grief yet, it can be awkward and nerve-wracking trying to say the "right thing" and steer clear of something that will make the person feel worse. However, many times the very things we think will comfort the person only...
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Friends and Social Support

Ya Gotta Have Friends: 4 Essential Ideas for Bouncing Back

It’s hard to bounce back by yourself.

If you look into the research about resiliency, inevitably you’ll find that social support and community are among the factors that help people learn to recover – and even thrive – through the worst of circumstances.

There are many aspects to the idea of social support but I’m just going to discuss four key components here. Utilizing any or all of these elements will help you bounce back...
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Acceptance

Early Resilience Research Helps Now

Resilience: The Beginning

Emmy Werner and Ruth Smith sifted through the mounds of data from their longitudinal study and noticed something peculiar. Of the children born on Kauai in 1955, there were a group of them that were at high risk for doing poorly as they grew older.

It wasn’t this group that caught the attention of the researchers, though. It was a subset of this...
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