Broken hearts. We’ve all had them, or will at some time. I hope these quotes for the broken-hearted will help you bounce back from heartbreak in the most healing way possible.
“Where you used to be, there is a hole in the world, which I find myself constantly walking around in the daytime, and falling in at night. I miss you like hell.” ~ Edna St. Vincent Millay
Remember that bouncing back from heartache is very much like bouncing back from other pain in our lives – you have to accept the loss in your life.
But remember this too: accepting something does not mean you have to like it.
One of the things I like about this quote for the broken-hearted from Edna St. Vincent Millay is that she has accepted the pain that accompanies heart break: I miss you like hell.
She is not using flowery, romantic language about the loss. She accepts it, but calls it like it is – a hole that she falls into every night, a hellish pain.
Identifying your feelings accurately will help you work with them. Numbing or denying your pain – while protective at first – only prolongs the healing.
It’s hard to get in touch with hellish pain. You know why?
I know that sounds simple, but we are so hard-wired to avoid pain – both physical and emotional – that we avoid it at any cost.
Accept your pain. Call it what it is. You don’t have to like it, you just need to be with it.
“A final comfort that is small, but not cold: The heart is the only broken instrument that works.” ~ T.E. Kalem
As Kalem says, this quote for the broken-hearted presents a small comfort: the broken heart beats on.
When you are in the throes of heartache, it can be good to cling to this idea. Your heart feels shattered, and yet continues its work, both biologically and emotionally. It keeps beating and it is healing itself, beat by beat.
Hang on to this idea. Visualize your heart beating, pulsing out the pain and drawing in healing with each beat.
This is the resiliency skill of having a different perspective. Know that your heart – though broken – can heal and even become stronger.
Your current heartbreak has important lessons and gifts to bring you rather than just being a horrible event in your life.
“Sadness flies away on the wings of time.” ~ Jean de La Fontaine
This final quote for the broken-hearted addresses two essential elements of bouncing back in life.
The first is time.
That old saying that time heals all wounds is pretty close to the truth. While the wounds may not completely heal, time does help. A lot.
Give yourself time to recover. Try not to pressure yourself by thinking, “It’s been two months and I still feel this way.” You may need longer than two months. You may need a shorter time.
The important thing is to allow yourself whatever time you need.
The second element in this quote, although somewhat hidden, is self-compassion.
When you acknowledge that you are sad, that you are hurting, it’s important for you to have compassion for yourself.
Treat yourself as you would your best friend. So, rather than thinking, “I should be over this by now,” say, “This really hurts. And it may hurt for awhile. May I be kind to myself during this time.”
Heart break is, well, heart-breaking. And it’s a normal, though unwanted, part of life. Remember that we all go through it and most of us have come out okay on the other side.
I hope these quotes for the broken-hearted will help you to accept your pain, get a different perspective on your broken heart and allow you the time and self-compassion you need to heal.