A lot of people file for divorce because they're in fantasy mode, or fear mode. What are the signs of each, and how can you make your decision from a clear-eyed place? Here are some thoughts.
When your kid(s) are having trouble in school, you might find yourself taking one of two positions: The mama bear, where you want to storm in and defend your cub Or feeling like you need to whip your child into shape (not literally, I hope), but you know what I mean. The feeling that we want our kids to represent us well in the world is just an inevitable part of parenting. Either extreme is a disservice to you and your children. So what's a good middle ground alternative? Read on to find out!
I just wanted to write a little post today in praise of gratitude. Let me start by saying what gratitude isn't. It's not complacency. It's not pretending that the world's problems don't exist. It's not denial. It's not a panacea, or a cure-all for all your problems. But it is an amazing (and amazingly simple) tool. So what exactly is gratitude, and how can it help you?
Adult bullying often takes a different form than what many experience in childhood. It might be rumor-mongering; it might be undermining a colleague at work; it might be ostracism, just treating someone as if they aren't even worthy of attention. Or it might be online nastiness--where people say things they would never say to another person's face, and they might do it in unison with a bunch of faceless others. Whatever the particulars, you might be surprised to find that protection can take the same form.
In my last post, I wrote about how couples can begin to recover from an affair. One of the side effects of discovering a betrayal is that you're not only uncertain about your partner, but you're also afraid to trust your own instincts and decisions. Whether your relationship survives the betrayal or not, it's important to rebuild your trust in yourself.
Perhaps you've discovered your partner's affair, or your partner has confessed. It could be primarily emotional or sexual or it could be a combination; it could be multiple partners and one-night stands, or it could be with a single person for a long period of time. While the particulars do matter, the sense of betrayal and the feeling that your life--and partner--is not what you had thought tends to be similar. So how do you begin to move forward?
With hate crimes on the rise and just a general sense of increasing intolerance, a lot of people are wondering what to tell their kids. We don't want to resort to lectures and be tuned out, but we don't want to just say nothing and let them absorb whatever comes. Here are some ideas for where to start.
This one's on my mind after a bunch of hours of airport travel yesterday, followed by a 45 minute wait for a rental car (ten kiosks, one person working), not to mention...well, you don't want to hear about my irritations. You have your own. Staying calm in trying times is a skill, and you can master it. Here are some tips.
Often what makes people difficult is that they have a lack of awareness of the needs of others. They're not about to adapt to you; they expect you to adapt to them. And depending on your relationship (whether it's marriage, a colleague, a boss, a child's teacher), it can be incredibly stressful. So what do you do?