Couples

Start Having the Sex You Want

I just finished the fantastic book "Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life" by Emily Nagoski. What was most striking about it for me wasn't the science (though Nagoski does a great job at laying that out, along with the misconceptions, inaccuracies, and propaganda we've all been fed for too long.)

No, what was most striking was the frequent refrain/reassurance that we're all normal--in terms of our body parts, our desires, our arousal, our orgasms. You name it:...
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Adolescents

Letting Go of Our Kids

My Facebook and my email inbox are full of stories of parents sending their kids off to school this week--from kindergarten through college.

Often, it's with a lot of pride and equal amounts of tears. But there are all sorts of less dramatic and daily ways that we need to let our kids go: by loosening the reins, allowing them to make their own mistakes, and facing the consequences from the world rather...
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Assertiveness

You’re the Expert on Your Child

When your child is having trouble, it might make you feel like you need to just sit back and let the experts take over. You need to listen to everything they tell you at the school, and take all the advice from therapists.

Maybe you feel like your child's issues are somehow your fault, and that you just have to turn over your power to other people.

Remember, your child needs you now...
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General

Reasons for Optimism in a Stressful, Uncertain Time

Let me just say, this isn't going to be a hearts-and-flowers sugarcoated sort of a blog. The fact is, we're living in deeply troubled times. Every day it seems like we're hearing about a new terrorist attack somewhere in the world and another shooting in our own country; the Republican presidential nominee tells us we're unsafe and only he can fix it but meanwhile, the Democrats are getting hacked left and right.

Yep, these are...
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