In the past week, I've had occasion to use the expression, "Be kind, not nice," with three different clients. It's one of my favorites. What's the difference between "kind" and "nice," and why does it matter?
Sure, workaholism doesn't seem as bad as the other -isms (alcoholism, for example.) But like alcoholism, workaholism is a progressive disease, and if left untreated, it gets worse, isolating you from others and even from yourself. Sometimes you might not recognize the impact until it's too late and your relationships are distant and/or disintegrating. Hopefully, this post can help call attention to some signs and you can make changes much sooner than that.
It's important to be authentic, but in our relationships, we need to also be smart. We need to be strategic. Expressing every thought and feeling we have doesn't serve us, or our connections with others. But you don't want to stifle yourself and end up frustrated and resentful either. So here are some ideas about assertiveness versus keeping your own counsel--for a while, at least.
This one's on my mind because I'm working with a great couple who are having difficulty navigating this thorny issue. It gets into all sorts of loyalty conflicts and a reexamination of things that were previously assumed. But I have some tips on how to get through it with all your relationships intact.
It can be tempting to get back together with an ex. Dating is so full of uncertainty, but with an ex, you know what's your getting, more or less. For better and worse. But how do you know when you're just tired of looking for the real thing, and when your ex might actually be the real thing? Here are some questions to ask yourself.