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Finding Your Voice

Assertiveness is often misunderstood. People might think it means being confrontational or strident; they might assume it’s about having to sound powerful.

In truth, assertiveness comes in many different styles,

4 thoughts on “Finding Your Voice

  • October 24, 2016 at 5:36 pm

    Like this…Though I think it comes with a proviso like a sense of oneself without having too many issues which can distort the general shape of your natural personality. Since I had a lot of these, it meant working through the major events which had caused it. The final piece in the jigsaw, for me, was actually realising that though I’d dealt with the major squish factor. I hadn’t referenced that it had happened as a result of my own fiery nature when I was a child. The antagonist is well forgiven, hanging onto emotional baggage creates unnecessary weight, but I’d forgotten the fiery aspect to which my mother often referred. Of course today, with a toe in golden pond, I’m in good shape having almost panel beaten the shape of my personality into its natural form by working from the inside. Likening it to a vessel containing my values,therefore , I choose to defend those, as my right. As for little Mr Fiery, he also lies within like a little hot genie, waiting to pop out if someone deliberately rubs me up the wrong way. This isn’t sullen festering passive aggression, nor pent up anger, its assertiveness…

    • October 24, 2016 at 7:16 pm

      Good points. Sometimes anger is useful–you can channel it into assertiveness. Self-awareness and self-control are important. It sounds like you’ve done amazing work to arrive where you are now!

      • October 24, 2016 at 8:28 pm

        Thank you..and thanks to the many professional contributors on here,whose insights and wisdom have helped me get there over the last few months…Love n light to Y’all

      • October 25, 2016 at 3:15 pm

        Aw, thanks to you! You make this a really great gig.


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