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Assertiveness

Finding Your Voice

Assertiveness is often misunderstood. People might think it means being confrontational or strident; they might assume it's about having to sound powerful.

In truth, assertiveness comes in many different styles, and sometimes involves vulnerability. At its core, it's about expressing yourself--your feelings, your perspective, your...
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Couples

Start Having the Sex You Want

I just finished the fantastic book "Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life" by Emily Nagoski. What was most striking about it for me wasn't the science (though Nagoski does a great job at laying that out, along with the misconceptions, inaccuracies, and propaganda we've all been fed for too long.)

No, what was most striking was the frequent refrain/reassurance that we're all normal--in terms of our body parts, our desires, our arousal, our orgasms. You name it:...
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Assertiveness

You’re the Expert on Your Child

When your child is having trouble, it might make you feel like you need to just sit back and let the experts take over. You need to listen to everything they tell you at the school, and take all the advice from therapists.

Maybe you feel like your child's issues are somehow your fault, and that you just have to turn over your power to other people.

Remember, your child needs you now...
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