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Adolescents

Letting Go of Our Kids

My Facebook and my email inbox are full of stories of parents sending their kids off to school this week--from kindergarten through college.

Often, it's with a lot of pride and equal amounts of tears. But there are all sorts of less dramatic and daily ways that we need to let our kids go: by loosening the reins, allowing them to make their own mistakes, and facing the consequences from the world rather...
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Assertiveness

You’re the Expert on Your Child

When your child is having trouble, it might make you feel like you need to just sit back and let the experts take over. You need to listen to everything they tell you at the school, and take all the advice from therapists.

Maybe you feel like your child's issues are somehow your fault, and that you just have to turn over your power to other people.

Remember, your child needs you now...
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Adolescents

Girls & Sex: How to Talk About It

I just read the fantastic book "Girls & Sex" by Peggy Orenstein. What I love is that while it paints a somewhat dire picture of the landscape for teen (and even pre-teen girls), not to mention young adults, it's not just about diagnosing the problem; there's a prescription.

You can help your daughters navigate that landscape, but it involves talking to them differently than you might have considered before. It...
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Parenting

Note to Trump (and to Our Kids): Expressing Remorse is a Strength

So Trump's latest racist affront has arrived, and as usual, he makes no apologies. And the Republican party wants him to just say he's sorry so he can end the conversation. As anyone with kids knows, forcing apologies does nothing for the victim or the perpetrator.

Expressing remorse is just the start, though. It's also about helping the other person (or people) to heal from what's been done to them. All of that...
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