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Reconnecting with Yourself

reconnecting with yourselfDo you ever feel like you’ve become just a spouse or a parent or a worker? Or maybe you’re a combination of all those but you’ve lost sight of everything else that came before. Here’s a reminder of how (and why) you need to get your mojo back. And it’s easier than you think.Set some time aside, as little as ten minutes. Think of it like meditation crossed with time travel. Close your eyes, and go back, and back, and back.

You’re a child again. What did you love doing? Remember that sense of joy, of being fully present and focused on fun, that children achieve quite naturally. And usually, what we fully loved was also what made us feel the most like ourselves. It tapped into something essential,┬áinto our core.

I know that for me, it was telling stories. I’d spend hours talking into a tape recorder about the “amazing adventures of the Ultimate Ubu.” It’s not a coincidence that years later, I found my way back to novel writing. I still feel a sort of wholeness when I’m writing that’s unlike anything else.

What’s your version of that? And where does it fit into your current life?

If it doesn’t fit in right now, it’s time to figure out how it could. Maybe it’s just a few hours a week by yourself, a time to step outside of the usual grind and relax and let your mind roam free, or maybe it’s a creative pursuit, or maybe your way of reconnecting with yourself is about connecting with others. I know people who’ve felt rejuvenated by something like taking an improv class, and that burst of energy carried over into other aspects of their life.

The amazing thing is, it doesn’t take much in terms of time. But sending yourself the message that you get to inhabit yourself fully, that you are valuable as an individual and not just in relation to others, can be incredibly empowering and, I would argue, necessary.


Reconnecting with Yourself

Holly Brown, LMFT

Holly Brown is a marriage and family therapist in the San Francisco Bay area. She has a private practice in Alameda ( ). She is also a novelist ( Her latest is HOW FAR SHE'S COME, a workplace thriller which received a starred review from Publisher's Weekly: "This provocative tale will resonate with many in the era of the #MeToo movement."

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Brown, H. (2016). Reconnecting with Yourself. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 4, 2020, from


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