Archives for July, 2013

General

The Problem with Heroes and Villains

In a bizarre twist this past week, George Zimmerman rescued a family from an overturned SUV.  The reason I call it "bizarre" is that so many (myself included) have been presuming Zimmerman's villainy, given the killing of Trayvon Martin.

And in light of an obvious act of heroism (yes, I know, many will call it too coincidental, or staged to rehab his image, but that seems rather unlikely), I had to recognize that I had diminished his...
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Parenting

Keeping Up With The Joneses’ (Baby)

My baby is 18 months old.  Well, 18 and a half.  So that means she should be a toddler, but the thing is, she's largely still a baby.

She crawled at 14 months, and while she's made some strides physically, she's not walking yet.  She babbles like a champ, but isn't much of a talker.  I have to admit, sometimes I look around the playground wistfully, noticing what kids who are younger than her are already doing....
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Parenting

Fearing For Your Fearless (Addicted) Child

Last week, before learning of Corey Monteith's addiction-related death, I happened to write a post about attachment and substance abuse.  I wrote that one of my greatest fears is that my daughter will grow up to have an addiction problem.

Monteith's family is dealing with the absolute greatest fear: the death of their child.  But the reason it's so awful for a parent to live with their child's substance abuse is because that ultimate fear is...
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General

The Psychology of Gun Laws

Everyone's talking about the verdict in the George Zimmerman case; everyone's got an opinion.  I'm no legal expert, so I'll just talk about what I see in terms of the psychology when it comes to Florida's Stand Your Ground Law, and how I believe that contributes to the tragedy that day.

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Assertiveness

Attachment and Substance Abuse

I just finished reading David Sheff's book "Beautiful Boy" (I know, I'm five years behind in my reading).  It's about his painful struggle to help his son through meth addiction.

I have clients who are experiencing similar struggles, and to be honest, there's a part of me that feels slightly anxious when I meet with them, and I have to work to manage this countertransference.  What's happened to their children represents one of my biggest fears for...
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Parenting

Before 43…

This is the last of my blog post trilogy, and the one that is, in a sense, closest to my heart at the moment.  It's inspired by the movie "Before Midnight", the third movie about Jesse and Celine, a couple who met for one night and then were reunited ten years later and now, have been together nine years and have twin daughters.

It's a very different movie than the ones that came before, in that Jesse...
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Relationships

What We Should Know By Our Thirties

Today's post is inspired by the second movie in the Richard Linklater trio, "Before Sunset."  In the movie, Ethan Hawke and Julie Delpy's characters meet again, ten years after their one magical night together.

They are in their early thirties, older and perhaps wiser; he's married with a child.  But their night together has imprinted on their consciousness, and perhaps made real life seem inferior to magic.

It makes me think about that transition from young adulthood with...
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