Archives for June, 2013

Parenting

You, Before (and After) Babies

I wrote a blog last week about how to date your husband, post-baby.  The number one thing I talked about was keeping the expectations low, not feeling like you need to be particularly fascinating, being okay with the fact that you might spend a lot of time talking about the kids.

That got me wondering about the self I used to be, before my daughter (she's 18 months old.)  I recall myself being quicker, quippier, flirtier, and...
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Assertiveness

Profiles in Courage

I know, it's a strange topic for a mental health blog.  But when I think of good mental health, I think of good self-esteem, and what better way to achieve the latter (and the former), than by being brave?  And teaching our kids to be brave?

So I heard this brief anecdote that I wanted to share in the hopes that others find it inspirational as I did.
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Attachment

How to Date Your Husband

It sounds easy enough.  But once you've got young kids, it's surprisingly difficult.  There's not much time, and babysitters cost a lot of money, and since it becomes such a rare occurrence to have a date, it puts all kinds of pressure to make it a really great date.

Add it all up, and it can be a tough job, dating your husband in the post-kid era.  So here are some suggestions.
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Attachment

In Praise of the Paternal Instinct

With Father's Day approaching, I want to take a moment to celebrate the unsung paternal instinct.  Even though it's somewhat retrograde when stated explicitly, I feel like the notion of the mother's instinct--some superior sixth sense that governs female parenting decisions--is still widely assumed.

That is, in parenting matters where there's disagreement between mother and father, mother is innately more right.  Egalitarian and progressive as I've always believed myself to be, I have found myself falling into...
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Assertiveness

Speak Up, Or Remain Silent?

It's a question that's been on my mind--probably on a lot of people's minds--since the NSA leaker's identity has been revealed.

I'm not sure if what he did was right, if it will have some unforeseen national security consequences, but from all I've read so far, it was done from a place of conscience: He believed the American people ought to know the extent of the domestic surveillance program, and how it's being carried out.

Many of us are...
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General

What’s So Depressing About Summer?

As a kid, the start of summer wasn't based on the calendar; it really started after the last day of school.  It meant freedom and play and relaxation.

And even now, for a lot of us, when we get deeper into June, there's a certain exhilaration, a sense that now the good stuff is about to happen.  There are vacations to plan and anticipate, warm weather to take advantage of with outdoor 's a sense of possibility.

But...
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Attachment

Love-Love

As a tennis fan, I've been following the French Open, especially the human interest stories.  The male world number one player, Novak Djokovic, won his third round match and then was greeted with the news that his first coach (the one who'd coached him as a child) had died.  He was too upset to give a press conference.

It got me thinking about the meaningful emotional connections--attachments--that children make to people outside the family, those whose influence...
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