How to Be Heard

Last week, I was meeting with a couple fresh off a really damaging fight.  She had gotten angry and threatening; he had shut down; she had continued to escalate in…

The Problem with Monsters

We teach children not to fear monsters.  “Look,” we say, “I’ll show you there’s no one hiding in your closet or under your bed.”  But as adults, after collectively witnessing…

Having it All (Sort of)

I’m obsessed with trade-offs.  If you ask me, “What’s life about?”, I’d answer, in a heartbeat, “Trade-offs.”  If you say, “Can people have it all?”, I’d respond, “They can have…