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Coping Strategies

When Trauma was King: 3 Ways to Miss It


When I'm treating patients for depression and anxiety I of course take a thorough history. What is often missed is long-ago trauma that has been repressed and buried. This often re-surfaces in the middle phases of therapy when trust is well-established. No news here. But the news is that trauma lives in the body (The Body Keeps the Score) so when we go back to revisit it, the therapist must go real slow...
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Emotions

Rain PTSD (and other hurricane related things)

What my childhood home (my parents' current home) looks like at the moment, after hurricane Harvey's visit this past August.

It's been approximately two and a half months since hurricane Harvey hit my home city of Houston, TX (along with lots of other cities that were on its ad hoc southern tour schedule).

Yet still, every time the sky opens up and doesn't stop right away - like, immediately, NOW - I am on the...
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Anger

Addiction and Emotional Abuse

“The truth is that the few times he was physical with me were tiny blips on a long timeline of subtle manipulation, public humiliation, controlling behavior and gaslighting.” So writes Leigh Stein of her abusive boyfriend in her Washington Post essay, He Didn’t Hit Me. It Was Still Abuse.

Despite the deeply painful impact of emotional abuse, many people don’t grasp its significance. There are no bruises and broken bones, so does it really “count”?

Our answer: it certainly does. Emotional abuse is real, and...
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Emotions

Healing Wounds of the Past

Many people begin their spiritual journey focusing on all that is whole and good in their life. Gratitude for the things we value is a key to having mindful living but equally important is continually excavating the long buried wounds you’ve hidden beneath layers...
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Anger

Addiction and Verbal Abuse

“You’re stupid. You’re an idiot.”

“What’s wrong with you? You’re crazy!”

“You’re worthless, you’re nothing.”

“You should never have been born.”

“You don’t shape up, I’m gonna kill you.”

All of these words and phrases constitute verbal abuse. That’s why just seeing them on a computer screen can cause...
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dual diagnosis

Addiction and Sexual Abuse

“We walked into that police station holding the jagged shards of our story, of our childhood, and said, LOOK. THIS HAPPENED. And Officer Paul Smith bore witness. He wrote it down.”

So writes childhood sexual abuse survivor, blogger, speaker, and advocate Laura Parrott Perry in...
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Adult Children of Alcoholics

You Don’t Outgrow the Effects of an Alcoholic Parent

Alcoholism has a lasting impact on children.
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Most of the adult children of alcoholics who I know underestimate the effects of being raised in an alcoholic family. Perhaps it's wishful thinking. Perhaps it’s denial. More likely it’s shame and simply not knowing that adult children of alcoholics (ACOAs), as a group, tend to struggle with a particular set of issues.

If you’re an adult child of...
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