Why Winning Doesn’t Work

Although arguments generally can’t always be avoided, it is possible to create arguments that produce productive, rather than destructive outcomes that result in greater understanding, trust, and mutual respect. Bringing about such an outcome requires that we begin with an intention to do so.

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Self-trust and How To Build It

Linda: Self-trust is not trusting yourself to know all the answers; nor is it believing that you will always do the right things. It’s having the conviction that you will be kind and respectful to yourself regardless of the outcome of your efforts.

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Needs

LindaA need is anything that is an essential component to promote well-being in our lives. Although these needs are not essential to your survival,

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Speculations, Assumptions, & Projections

CharlieThe word “project” has multiple definitions and two possible pronunciations. The noun, ‘project’ has an emphasis on the first syllable, as in “Writing a book is a fascinating and challenging project”.

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The Antidote to Arrogance

We often write about the virtues and qualities that promote healthy and mutually-fulfilling relationships, such as generosity, respect, commitment, and compassion, to name a few in the top ten. Cultivating these qualities through intentional practice will do a lot to enhance the quality of all of our relationships.

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The Secrets of Great Relationships

After hearing from many frustrated people over the years we’ve heard from a lot of disenchanted people who have felt very pessimistic people about their chances of creating a fulfilling long-term partnership.

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Is Porn Cheating? Defining Infidelity in the Digital Age.

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As a therapist who’s spent more than 25 years treating individuals and couples with intimacy and sexual issues, including every imaginable problem related to infidelity, I can assure you that one of the most difficult aspects of helping a person who has cheated on his or her significant other is getting that individual to view the behavior as infidelity.

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