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True Intimacy Can Exist Only Between Equals

Melony and Jude married when they were both barely out of their teens. Like many couples, neither of them had experienced or observed much genuine intimacy in their lives or families prior to meeting and marrying. Melony’s mother was a hyper-responsible supermom who worked...
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Ode to a Paedo

You said you were the man,
The only man I could trust.

Then touched my young breasts,
while denying your lust.

So the game was on,
you'd screwed with my head.

Copped a feel every day,
while I lay in my bed.

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Consensual Sex is an Ongoing Dialogue, Not Simply a Yes

The #MeToo movement and the Aziz Ansari story have inspired much needed discussion about the boundaries involved in consensual sex. In today’s hookup culture, often sexual partners barely know each other, so they don't have a longstanding, trusting rapport at the foundation of their relationship. They lack a deeper understanding of each other’s emotional, physical and sexual comfort levels and limits. This puts them at risk for having sexual encounters that may have started out as consensual, but then became uncomfortable,...
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Do You Have Bad Bedroom Etiquette?

When it comes to being intimate with your partner, or someone you just met, bedroom etiquette is a must. I would hope people know the basics when it comes to bedroom etiquette, but some of us don't.

When it comes to bedroom etiquette, one basic...
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No More Incest!

Just when you think you've seen it all, heard it all, experienced it all, that's when you discover life can get sicker, more warped, more twisted, more disgusting than you ever imagined.

I knew my husband, Rhys, had been raped multiple times by his aunt when he was an innocent four-year-old boy. I knew his rapist had been raped by her father, Rhys' grandfather. I hoped the incest stopped there. It didn't.

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Coping Strategies

Hook-Up Culture Shock – 10 Ways to Fix it Right Now

Let's get rid of it. The hook-up culture. I don't know when it started. But let's stop it. I'm guessing it began as a feminist thing. We want casual sex too! We don't care. But we do. In the last 15 years of my practice never once have I heard a young girl tell me that she liked being dumped in the morning. NEVER ONCE. As I was watching these confident olympian girls and women,...
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