What Kind of a File Are You Keeping? Part 2

Linda: Keeping track of how difficult (selfish, dishonest, controlling, unreasonable, cruel, stubborn, bitchy, mean, aggressive, distant, cold, shut-down, possessive, irrational, hysterical, illogical, over-sexed, under-sexed, boring, passive,

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What Kind of a File Are You Keeping? Part 1

When speaking about marriage: “No other relationship so profoundly tests the extent of our own willingness to be flexible and forgiving to learn and change—if we can resist the allure of self-justification.” ~ Carol Tarvris and Elliott Aaronson in Mistakes Were Made (but not by me)

Linda: Couples are enormously invested in making their marriage work.

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Embracing Change

Linda: Changing conditioned patterns is not easy, but believing that change is possible is a good start. Transformation is possible if people find the motivation to do so.

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Flow State Together Part 2

Linda: Flow is the ultimate ecstatic experience, the highest level of happiness. A successful marriage operates inflow state a large portion of the time because both partners are meeting challenges with skills.

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Contempt

LindaIt was John Bradshaw who offered a handy distinction between guilt and shame. Guilt is “I made a mistake. Shame is I am a mistake.” Shame is more global,

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Qualities and Practices

LindaCouples with great relationships have earned them by developing positive qualities that promote fulfilling partnerships. These couples state that they have created this largely through the learning and growth they have experienced in the course of their relationship.

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