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Are You Sure Losing Weight is The Answer?

Sometimes we hyper-focus on losing weight, because we yearn to feel lighter. Because right now we feel so heavy. Which we assume is because of the number on the scale. In our society, we always assume that the culprit is the number on the scale. We always assume that our weight is the issue, the end-all, be-all issue (and, of course, it's all our fault).

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The Pressure to Bounce Back

There's pressure to bounce back after you've had a baby. You're supposed to get back to your previous shape---to fit into your wedding dress, to fit into your old skinny jeans. You're supposed to be just as productive and energized as you were before. You're supposed to be in a similar place emotionally. You're supposed to be calm and content.

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Family Life

How to Promote Healthy Emotional-Social Development of iGen Teens


In her popular article, Have Smartphones Destroyed a Generation?, Jean M. Twenge refers to the “iGen”---those born between 1995 and 2012 that have been shaped by smartphones and social media. She says that while this generation might be physically safer than adolescents have ever been (because they’re “more comfortable online than out partying”), they are “on the brink of a mental health crisis.“ She adds that the research says, “The more time teens spend...
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Narcissists Hate Seeing You Happy


People with strong narcissistic tendencies hate seeing others do well. There are several reasons for this, and we will explore some of them in this article.

First and foremost, true happiness comes from within. Narcissistic people are unable to feel genuine happiness because they severely, or even completely, lack a sense of genuine self.
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Culture

The Most Unrealistic Expectation of Them All

Yesterday, you ran 5 miles, prepared dinner for several nights, completed a complicated work project and organized your entire office. Or you checked off every task from your very long to-do list. Your focus barely waned and the day almost felt seamless.

Today, you showered, put cream cheese on a bagel, and feel like a zombie (or whatever has less energy than that).

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Believing in Yourself When No One Else Does


We all experience hard times. For some of us it’s occasional, while for others it’s seemingly their whole life.

When people feel frustrated, overwhelmed, or lost, they may want support from others. Especially if they haven’t done a lot of self-work or have just begun to better understand themselves and the world.

In moments like that, we may want validation, help, understanding, or encouragement. 
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Personal Goals

7 Hacks For Becoming a More Persuasive Communicator


Are you hoping to become more persuasive when you speak? Do you want to get others to buy into what you are sharing? If the answer is yes, you wouldn't be alone.

A common reason people enter counseling is to gain assistance with communication skills. This is particularly true for folks working in sales and management, where dialogue is critical to success.

Being able to persuade others is an ability that takes time and effort. But...
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How Childhood Abuse Becomes Self-Abuse


All of us have probably acted against our own self-interest at some point in our lives. For some people, it’s feeling sick after eating a bag of candy or drinking too much, while for others it’s self-mutilation and mental self-erasure.

The concept of abuse is complicated. It’s simple on an abstract theoretical level: abuse is a type of behavior that is harmful. But it’s much more complicated on a psychoemotional level because people tend to justify or...
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When You Fear Gaining Weight

Many of us fear gaining weight. In fact, it is a fear that's hard to avoid, according to Kirsten Belzer, LCSW, a psychotherapist in private practice in Chicago. Because in our culture, the number on the scale is so much more than just a number. It is so much more than a representation of our weight.

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14 Signs of Mentally Strong People

Psychological, intellectual, and emotional strength is, in many ways, the ability to perceive reality for what it really is, and then manage your emotions about those observations in a healthy, productive manner.
Mental strength is revealed by both what we do and, at other times, by what we don’t do.
Here are 14 signs of a mentally strong
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