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General

Why Our Family Triggers Us—And What to Do

A stranger or even a friend makes the same remark to you as a family member. But it's your family member's words that sting the most. Somehow our family has a way of pushing our buttons---and that's because they installed them. Our family also triggers us so intensely because of regression, said therapist Britt Frank. Regression, she said, is returning to a less developed state.

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General

3 Nourishing Ways to Navigate Family Visits During the Holidays


Today, I'm honored to share an important guest post by Dezryelle Arcieri, a Washington-based therapist and yoga instructor. She provides super helpful tools and exercises to help us get centered and reconnect to our values as we navigate the holiday season. Reconnecting to our values is reconnecting to ourselves. Which, of course, is a pivotal part of self-care.
The holidays can be a joyous, exciting, and fun time, but they can also be challenging...
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Body Image

The Pressure to Bounce Back

There's pressure to bounce back after you've had a baby. You're supposed to get back to your previous shape---to fit into your wedding dress, to fit into your old skinny jeans. You're supposed to be just as productive and energized as you were before. You're supposed to be in a similar place emotionally. You're supposed to be calm and content.

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coping skills

Self-Compassion as Part of Self-Care


Emotionally sensitive people are often among the most compassionate people you meet. They are compassionate with people they know, strangers, animals, and more, but they often struggle to be compassionate with themselves. They may even resist the idea that showing compassion to themselves is a desirable goal. Is self-compassion an indulgence? Does it need to be "deserved?"

Taking care of your physical health is important for your health. You may feel proud when you eat nutritious food...
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Child Anxiety

3 Powerful Ways to Turn Your Child’s Mistakes into Springboards for Success


“Wow, she’s a natural at soccer.”

 “He's like a math prodigy!”

 “Did you see how well she plays the violin? And she’s only five.”

Growing up, I was in awe of children and adults alike who displayed raw talent in sports, academics, music, and other areas. In fact, I thought such talent was the only path to success.

Don’t get me wrong—My mom attempted to influence me with the truism, “If at first you don't succeed, try, try again.”...
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Child Anxiety

4 Steps to Help Your Child Defeat Procrastination (Illustrated)


“I'll clean my room tomorrow!”

“It's not due until next week!”

“I'll do my chores later!”

They insist. They persuade. They don’t act.

Watching your kids go through the self-destructive process of procrastination can be extremely painful. Your options are to either do nothing, watching the whole, all-to-familiar scenario unfold, help out, by doing some or all of the work for them, or play the “parent card” and make them do it, causing stress and bad feelings.

But none of these...
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