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General

Psychopathology of Extreme Masculinity, Mass Shootings, Assault and Rape


Extreme masculinity depicts maleness as a construct that inherently stands against what femaleness stands for, such as emotional connection, caring, compassion, empathy, kindness, collaboration, vulnerability to pain and growth, and the like.

These emotions however are core to creating meaningful personal lives, and working together as social beings.

On the one hand, men learn to view femaleness as weak, passive and inferior, and yet on the other also as a contaminating and...
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Asperger Syndrome

Asperger’s And Non-Aspie Relationships

Having a partner with Aspergers when you’re a “neurotypical” can be challenging at times, and Aspies can sometimes be confused and frustrated by the needs of neurotypical partners. If you are the neurotypical partner, it helps to understand that your partner processes differently and has different needs and expectations, and is not uncaring, trying to hold out on you or deliberately trying to upset you. If you are the Aspie, you need...
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General

Narcissists Hate Seeing You Happy


People with strong narcissistic tendencies hate seeing others do well. There are several reasons for this, and we will explore some of them in this article.

First and foremost, true happiness comes from within. Narcissistic people are unable to feel genuine happiness because they severely, or even completely, lack a sense of genuine self.
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Animal Mentors

Saying No With Confidence

My parrot, Pearl, picks up the green thing and drops it into the clear "no" in any language!

"No" is not my favorite word. This includes when I am hearing "no" and also when I am saying "no."

Sometimes this results in me saying "yes" when I should be saying "no."

It's such a small word - only one syllable and two letters - and yet apparently size doesn't matter when it comes to the...
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Communication

Using Mindfulness To Improve Your Relationships

When we hear the word “mindfulness”, many of us think about how being more mindful could benefit our physical health, reduce our anxiety, help us perform better at our job, or deepen our spirituality. Being more mindful can certainly bring about these changes. However, mindfulness can also strengthen our relationships with other people. How does this work?

The three “what” skills of mindfulness are:

Observe

Describe

Participate

Generally, we practice one of the “what” skills at a time, rather than trying...
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General

Believing in Yourself When No One Else Does


We all experience hard times. For some of us it’s occasional, while for others it’s seemingly their whole life.

When people feel frustrated, overwhelmed, or lost, they may want support from others. Especially if they haven’t done a lot of self-work or have just begun to better understand themselves and the world.

In moments like that, we may want validation, help, understanding, or encouragement. 
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Commitment

Life-Changing Moments

Charlie: It doesn't take long to have a life-changing experience. Sometimes a weekend workshop will do it. Sometimes a chance encounter is sufficient. Sometimes a moment can be enough time to create a permanent life change.

Twelve years ago, I (Charlie) had one such experience....
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Animal Mentors

What Animals Have Taught Me About My Childhood

Pearl, my parrot, investigates Dr. Verdolin's new book, "Raised by Animals."

I learn a lot from animals every single day - this mostly on account of how I live with three of them, a parrot, a turtle and a tortoise and am auntie to a fourth, a dachshund puppy.

For instance, animals have helped me better understand my instincts and habits and where they might have originated from, especially the ancient fight-or-flight...
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Communication

How To Get Along Well With Others

Whether it’s your spouse, in-laws, children, friends, colleagues at work, clients, children, or people you encounter while going about your day, knowing how to get along well with others can greatly enhance your life, as well as the lives of those around you, in both personal and professional arenas.

Healthy interpersonal relationships and a strong social support system are counted among the most important elements in a happy existence. The following are some simple (although not always...
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Relationships

Seeing Me With Kinder Eyes

That bright burst of sunlight right near the top of this picture is what I looked like when I viewed myself through my mentor's kinder eyes.

Most of the time when I'm going about my days I forget all about how old I am.

But then sometimes, it hits 'm 46 years old.

Like, how did that happen? And so quickly, too!

Never mind that I always assumed by the time I reached this ripe old age...
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Commitment

Great Communication

Linda: There is a big difference between speaking from our inner experience and speaking from our opinions. Speaking from our experience is expressing our feelings and needs. Speaking from our opinions is frequently characterized by thoughts, which are often critical and judgmental. There is...
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Relationships

Misplaced Creativity (and how to send it back where it belongs)

My creative kitchen, full of wonderful inventive items I love dearly.

It would seem I can't resist developing a relationship with everything in my life.

From the coffeemaker (most wonderful BFF EVER!) to the dustpan and broom to the small cute stuffed sheep that sits on my bedside table, these aren't just "things" in my life.

They are mirrors. They are parts of I am a part of each of them.

Part of why I feel so...
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Commitment

Sangha

Linda: In the Bhuddhist tradition, Sangha is a word in Pali and Sanskrit meaning association, assembly, company or community and refers to both the monastic community of monks and nuns, plus laymen and laywomen. Sangha, a community of admirable people, is considered to be...
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