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Relationships

Love or Attachment: Which Is It?

My parrot, Pearl, is very fond of fond. The moment a fresh sprig is presented, he leaps on it and starts chomping until all that remains is the dried-out stalk. I think it is safe to say this is an example of "attachment" rather than love!

"Is it attachment or is it love?"

To me, this is one of those deceptively easy questions - the ones we automatically think we know the answer...
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Attraction

The Gift of Service

When the love that a couple enjoys is robust and full, it demands a wider arena for expression. Their grief in not being able to have their own children got poured into their work with the children they work with. Consider the story of...
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General

5 Tips For Helping The Ex-Smoker In Your Life Stay Quit

Tips for helping an ex-smoker remain smoke-free
Are you married to or partnered with an ex-smoker? Trying to find ways to support your mate without being overbearing? Need some real tips on how to be helpful?

If the answer is yes, you have come to the right place. That’s because I am a former smoker. In fact, I used to put those nasty things in my mouth for over twenty-years.

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Commitment

Are You Holding the “Tension of the Opposites?”

Linda: Loving someone doesn’t mean that we always have warm and wonderful feelings toward them. Love is a stew flavored by a variety of ingredients — sometimes sweetness, spice, bitterness, or saltiness, and sometimes “the works.” Our ever-changing feelings, whether they are pleasurable or...
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Relationships: 12 Ways To Spot Unhealthy Boundaries

Do you know how to make someone respect your boundaries? Would you know what to say or do to keep your boundaries firm?

Most people struggle with boundaries because we, as a society, tend to see things at face value and with the intent of communicating in a peaceful manner. We hardly ever anticipate that someone would mistreat or misuse us.

This article will discuss and highlight 12 characteristics of someone with unhealthy boundaries. All...
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General

Your Self-Talk, Taking Back Your Mind From Crippling Lies of Narcissist

When women share their experiences of being in a relationship with a narcissist, they discover that, while the details of each relationship differ — the words and tactics that narcissists use are all so bizarrely the same!
It’s as if they consult one another, work from the same playbook, share game plans. The stuff that comes out of their mouths is, well, the same.

It’s like a secret language, except it’s not a...
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Creative Thinking

6 Ways to Cultivate Your Curiosity

I love this quote from Albert Einstein on the power of curiosity: “The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existence. One cannot help but be in awe when he contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure of reality. It is enough if one tries merely to comprehend a little of this mystery each day."

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Commitment

Beware of the Perils of Confirmation Bias

“What the human being is best at doing is interpreting all new information so that their prior conclusions remain intact.” — Warren Buffett
 

Charlie: If you’re like me you’ve often been mystified by others (including your primary partner) who appear to be unable...
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Emotions

A New Forgiveness Tactic That Seems to be Working

I found this eye-poppingly intricate little blossom laying on the ground by itself - there were no plants nearby and it was in perfect condition. This tiny flower reminds me so much of what the human soul must be pristine underneath all the oopses and whoopses of being a human being and living a human life.

Last year was the "Year of Sufficiency." This year, of course, is the "Year of Being a...
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Children

Hillbilly

A transcendent child


Vance is a hillbilly, at least that’s how he refers to himself and his relatives and neighbors in the Appalachian mountains. He was born and raised in Middletown, Ohio among large numbers of hillbilly transplants from Jackson, Kentucky deep...
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Commitment

Life-Changing Moments

Charlie: It doesn't take long to have a life-changing experience. Sometimes a weekend workshop will do it. Sometimes a chance encounter is sufficient. Sometimes a moment can be enough time to create a permanent life change.

Twelve years ago, I (Charlie) had one such experience....
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Commitment

Unusual Crucible

“There are only two tragedies in life: one is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it.”-Oscar Wild
Linda: Crucible is defined as a place or occasion of severe test or trial. We tend to think of crucibles as a loss, illness,...
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General

Seeing the Big Picture

Well maybe


There is a story about an old Chinese farmer who lived in ancient times. He was the envy of his rather small village, because unlike most of the other farmers, he possessed a horse.

One day, however, his horse ran away and...
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Commitment

Ultimate Limit Experiences

Challenges can grow wisdom.
Linda: Ultimate limit experiences are situations that must be faced consciously with courage and resolution, and that push us to the limits of our endurance. Examples are illness, failure, divorce, disgrace, betrayal, situations like facing our own death or...
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General

Part 1: 7 Challenges of Borderline Personality Disorder

Photo Credit: Petras Gagilas

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is one of the most complicating disorders for mental health professionals and researchers. Why? BPD is complicated based on many factors such as the environment (, upbringing, influences, etc.), temperament, genetic predisposition, age at which BPD was identified and treated, treatment recommendations, etc. So much goes into identifying, understanding, and coping with BPD. What makes matters more complicated is the unraveling of convoluted symptoms...
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Family

7 Consequences of Having an Emotionally Detached Parent

Photo Credit: Ravidilu

Do you know an emotionally avoidant and detached parent/guardian? If so, what makes that person so emotionally unavailable? Is it a mental illness, personality disorder, or something else such as a job, career goal, or educational endeavor? Whatever it is, having an emotionally unavailable parent or guardian can lead to a lifelong journey of unstable or failed relationships, emotional neediness, empty voids, identity confusion, poor attachment to others,...
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