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Attraction

A Gift We Give Our Partner is What We Don’t Say

“Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment.” ~ Benjamin Franklin
Linda: Exemplary couples give each other the gift of clearing. Clearing is a term that describes the process of coming to terms with our own anger without ever speaking to the other person. It is an inside job. There are several methods that we can...
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Relationships

How to Know When Saying Goodbye Is Saying I Love You

A certain avian family member lets his mama know his neck feathers itch and need scratching, like, right away!

Have you ever come home from an all-around sucky day, only to open your email inbox and realize the suck is just getting started?

This happened to me the other day.

I arrived home, sweating, starving and grumpy, anticipating a soothing shower and a quiet evening of scratching itchy avian neck feathers while...
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Commitment

Compassionate Self Care

Cynthia: "I just don't trust him anymore. There's no point in our even trying to work things out until Tom starts acting more respectfully towards me and shows me that I can trust him". This wasn't the first time that Cynthia had concluded that...
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Commitment

Why Tough Love Can Be the Best Thing for Your Relationship

"A failure to confront is a failure to love.” —Scott Peck    

Flickr: Bark

No one likes critical feedback. We often avoid criticism by discouraging those who give it, or dismissing it as invalid. It’s hard to hear that someone feels mistrust, disappointment, or anger toward us. But avoiding "tough love" denies us the opportunity to enhance respect and trust in our relationships and our lives.

Invalidating a partner's feelings undermines the level of trust and respect in...
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Abuse

When Love Hurts


This is a story of two little birds, both cockatiels.

It's about a kind of love that is destructive. It's about when love hurts.

It's also about healing, growing, and changing.

Once there were  two cockatiels who came to a rescue from a hoarding situation. One was named Mama Bird, and one was named Pretty Boy. They were mother and son.

Pretty Boy was quite pretty. He was gorgeous gray, full feathered, and looked like a healthy cockatiel should.

Mama Bird was not...
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