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Abuse

Is Jesus All You Need for Emotional Healing?

All my life I've watched people stand up in church and tearfully tell how all their problems were solved by inviting Jesus into their heart (a phrase not found in the Bible, btw.) And all my life, their claims bothered me. I just didn't buy it. No therapy. No counseling. No journaling. No learning. No soul searching. No recovery. Their testimonies implied that Jesus healed everything from pain from narcissistic abuse to addiction with absolutely no effort on their part, no...
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Recovery

My #MeToo Story (24 years after it happened)

A rare photo from those years. I am working away in the car, focused wholly on holding my own against what felt from the start like an unfairly stacked deck.

The other day I wasn't feeling so hot. The doctor called in a prescription and I headed off to Walgreens, still dressed in my jammies.

It goes without saying (or it should, if you've ever seen my jammies) that I wasn't planning to get out...
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Movie Mentoring

Sometimes Letting the Chips Fall Where They May Feels Good

I look at this pic of two dandelions and I just see raw nature at its finest. It doesn't need "dressing up." Plus, I prefer it as-is!

One of my (many) favorite movie genres is westerns. While to date I have mostly favored Clint Eastwood in roles such as "Pale Rider" and "High Plains Drifter," lately a new western contender has joined the pack.

"Hell or High Water," starring Jeff Bridges, Chris Pine and Ben...
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Recovery

Walking Through the Darkness At the End of the Tunnel

I learn so much from my baby tortoise, Malti! For instance, she likes to approach problem-solving (such as how to fit herself inside a cozy corner of my duvet cover) by backing into them, like I do.

I still remember the moment. I was in my early 30's. I had made some terrific progress recovering from anorexia and bulimia.

I had also released my first album of original songs and was starting to perform...
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Anxiety

Addiction and Limiting Beliefs

“When you argue for your limitations, you get to keep them.” This quote, attributed to Les Brown, sheds light on the powerful nature of limiting beliefs.

Simply put, what we believe determines our reality.

If you’re carrying around a lot of weighty, self-limiting beliefs, you’ll find...
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counseling

Longing for a Roadmap In Merging My Personalities

I have a dissociative disorder that includes multiple personalities. Right now, with my psychologist's help, I am trying to merge us so we can be one unified person. The idea of being unified is so exciting. I will have access to all of the emotions and memories, and stop fighting with other parts of me. It should be a tremendous relief.

But right now the process is difficult and overwhelming. My psychologist has experience with this process.

But...
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General

13 Benefits of Self-Awareness in Mental Illness Recovery

Several years ago, a college counselor told me I would qualify for disability due to my mental illnesses and encouraged me to apply. Surprised, I refused. “I can do everything fine; I don’t need help.” She studied me intently, then nodded her head, explaining, “You manage everything so well because you're a genius.” I wasn’t sure how to respond.  I'm not a genius.

These days I know the real reason I function so...
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Emotions

A New Forgiveness Tactic That Seems to be Working

I found this eye-poppingly intricate little blossom laying on the ground by itself - there were no plants nearby and it was in perfect condition. This tiny flower reminds me so much of what the human soul must be pristine underneath all the oopses and whoopses of being a human being and living a human life.

Last year was the "Year of Sufficiency." This year, of course, is the "Year of Being a...
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Relationships

How to Know When Saying Goodbye Is Saying I Love You

A certain avian family member lets his mama know his neck feathers itch and need scratching, like, right away!

Have you ever come home from an all-around sucky day, only to open your email inbox and realize the suck is just getting started?

This happened to me the other day.

I arrived home, sweating, starving and grumpy, anticipating a soothing shower and a quiet evening of scratching itchy avian neck feathers while...
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Movie Mentoring

The Challenges of Trying to Change Who You Are

When I saw this little plaque, I immediately knew it had to be though the design clearly screams "nursery room decor."

I will never forget the moment when I heard a friend of mine, a young mom-to-be, look down at her growing belly and utter these words:

I can't wait to meet my daughter and find out who she is!

I'll be honest - I looked right at her, scanning her face for the...
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