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Consensual Sex is an Ongoing Dialogue, Not Simply a Yes

The #MeToo movement and the Aziz Ansari story have inspired much needed discussion about the boundaries involved in consensual sex. In today’s hookup culture, often sexual partners barely know each other, so they don't have a longstanding, trusting rapport at the foundation of their relationship. They lack a deeper understanding of each other’s emotional, physical and sexual comfort levels and limits. This puts them at risk for having sexual encounters that may have started out as consensual, but then became uncomfortable,...
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My #MeToo Story (24 years after it happened)

A rare photo from those years. I am working away in the car, focused wholly on holding my own against what felt from the start like an unfairly stacked deck.

The other day I wasn't feeling so hot. The doctor called in a prescription and I headed off to Walgreens, still dressed in my jammies.

It goes without saying (or it should, if you've ever seen my jammies) that I wasn't planning to get out...
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Harvey Weinstein: Sex Addict? Sex Offender? Both?

Harvey Weinstein, recently accused by dozens of women of varying degrees of sexual misconduct, including rape, is seeking treatment for sexual addiction. And the public is up in arms about this, with a lot of people screaming that he should be in jail, not treatment.

Well, maybe he will end up in jail. But not until his behaviors are fully investigated, charges are filed, trials are held, and convictions are obtained. Until then, he’s free to...
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Narrating Healing: From No Words To Your Words

“Trauma defies language; it resists being communicated”
Central to healing in the aftermath of a traumatic event is the transformation of trauma’s unspeakable imprint to a story that can be told without reliving it.

Understanding how trauma leaves us without words may make it easier to consider ways that can help unlock the story hidden in visual images, painful feelings, flashbacks, bodily symptoms or silent avoidance. Both are important steps toward finding your words and continuing your story.

What is a Traumatic Event?

A traumatic...
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