Need treatment? Find help or get online counseling right now!

Tag archives for Partner


Working with Partners of Sex Addicts: An Interview with Dr. Barbara Steffens

My friend and colleague, Dr. Barbara Steffens, has specialized in the treatment and coaching of sex addicts and the betrayed partners of sex addicts since 1999. During that time, she has conducted groundbreaking research on the trauma that betrayed partners experience, and she has written an excellent (and highly recommended) book on the topic, Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal. Dr. Steffens is also a founding member and current President of APSATS: The Association of Partners and...
Continue Reading


Life Requires a Leap in Faith

"To live in faith that the whole world is on your side so long as you are true to the best that is in you."      ~ Christian D. Larson

I recently had a conversation with my uncle about faith. He grew-up as the son of...
Continue Reading

Career Strategy

Writer’s Voice: Look Deeper

Examining your emotions, attitudes and opinions are all part of self-discovery, which is a great way to find your voice.  Set aside some time now and then to complete a thorough inventory of how you feel about events in your life.

Think about what’s important to you. Art? Money? Relationships? Are you devoted to your family, to your job, to healing others, to running for office, to art, or even some academic field like anthropology.

Everyone’s different. For...
Continue Reading


Changes in Intimacy After Dementia: 10 Changes

There is no denying dementia causes significant changes in the life of the sufferer. Unfortunately, the first thing that comes to mind for most people when they consider the topic of dementia includes memory changes and confusion, however, romantic relationships can also be impacted. Dementia can affect both emotional, romantic, and physical connectedness. Often changes to romantic relationships can be difficult to discuss as most people do not feel comfortable discussing issues or problems in their intimate...
Continue Reading


Compassionate Self Care

Cynthia: "I just don't trust him anymore. There's no point in our even trying to work things out until Tom starts acting more respectfully towards me and shows me that I can trust him". This wasn't the first time that Cynthia had concluded that...
Continue Reading


So, Your Partner is Hooked on Porn?

A few months ago, I posted a blog on another site about what it’s like to be a sex/porn addict. Some of the feedback I got was from women who were angry that I’d displayed empathy for sex/porn addicts (betrayers) while ignoring the pain experienced by them, the cheated-on, painfully betrayed partners. For purposes of that blog, those comments were on target; I was focused on addicts, not their betrayed partners. In real life and...
Continue Reading


Trauma Of Domestic Violence: 7 Ways It Alters Your Life

Photo Credit: Alexas Fotos

Do you know someone who is (or have you been) the victim of domestic violence in some form (, as a child, a parent, a spouse, etc)? Do you remember what happened during the abuse? Domestic violence is more prevalent than most people believe. In fact, the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence reports that about 20 people, per minute,  are being physically abused in...
Continue Reading

Love & Romance

Healthy Romantic Love

In part one of this article, Does Vulnerability Help or Hinder Romantic Relationships, I suggested that being vulnerable is not always appropriate or helpful. I pointed out that the word "vulnerability" comes from Latin, meaning "to wound." And relationships that are built on woundedness are wounded. To learn more about that read part one of this article.
Continue Reading