Why Winning Doesn’t Work

Although arguments generally can’t always be avoided, it is possible to create arguments that produce productive, rather than destructive outcomes that result in greater understanding, trust, and mutual respect. Bringing about such an outcome requires that we begin with an intention to do so.


Playing Out Our Childhood Role

 “If we are to understand the underlying issues in our marriage, we need a working knowledge of the dramatic structure of the family we each grew up in particularly the roles we assumed and how we came to occupy them.”

–Augustus Napier in The Fragile Bond

The roles that Dr.