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Mental Health

Sins Of Your Father

"The soul that sinneth, it shall die. The son shall not bear the iniquity of the father," God

When we are young we often question the rules that we must abide by. Injustice looms large as we with envy examine the situation of somebody who got it better than us. Still when we are being raised there is something more profoundly fundamental going on. By means of observation we are learning the behaviors, methods and attitudes of...
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Anxiety

Bearing A Mother’s Fears Alone

In last week’s post, I wrote about how maternal can play out in a marriage. There were several comments about the post on my Facebook page that let me know the piece had clearly struck a nerve. At least a couple of moms who commented on the post could relate to the experience of holding more anxiety about children than their husbands. I thought I would explore this topic a little more this week...
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Abusive

How Can We Honor Narcissistic Parents???

In the first article, Honoring Narcissistic Parents!?!, we discussed exactly what honor means and, more importantly, what it does not mean ( obeying them blindly.) Please read it before diving into this article; it sets the foundation.

In this article, we'll figure out exactly how we can still honor narcissistic parents without compromising our mental health nor breaking "No Contact."
What Others Are Saying
When I mentioned the topic of "honoring parents" on Facebook, many of my children-of-narcissists friends instantly expressed interest. It's a...
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Poetry

Mother- A Poem In Remembrance

Publishing Caitlin Walsh's poem yesterday made me think about my own mother. My mother passed away seven years ago.

I went through a lot of pain and heartache when I was a child. When one is young you have nothing to reference your experiences with. Once a person becomes acquainted with the world one can begin to say how good or how bad one had life in their youth. But the process of growth doesn't stop their....
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Entanglement

#265: The Motherhood Myth

Did you see the TIME magazine cover for October 30 0f 2017? In the 21st century society is still telling women how to mother. The article describes the mandates to breast-feed and to pursue “natural” childbirth without painkillers. To do so will, or so...
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Coping Strategies

Nell’s Journey Into Darkness and Return

  I first started seeing Nell because her Father, with whom she lived, said she was involved in self-harming and he knew nothing about it. Like most parents, Nell's father thought she was trying to kill herself, a terrifying thought since his own uncle had done that at the age of 40. Fortunately Nell's cutting was more of the emotional pain release variety, also quite serious nonetheless. Many therapists put self harm in the category...
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Family

My Mom is an Addict: A Guest Post by Anonymous

My mom is an addict.

If you saw my mom standing in line at the pharmacy, you wouldn’t take a second look. She is a 70-year-old woman with a scar on the back of her neck from one of her surgeries. If you look closer, she also has a scar on her knee and a scar on her shoulder from other surgeries. Unless she’s wearing a bikini, you wouldn’t see the scars on her stomach from...
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Adoptee

When Adoptees Have Children


For adoptees, having our own children can raise a plethora of emotions, all of which can be difficult to navigate. Giving birth is such a primitive, visceral and life-changing experience, it will understandably make us think back to our own beginnings and of our birth families, primarily our mother. It's not just an issue for women: men who are adopted can and will struggle, too, their own children raising uncomfortable feelings about...
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