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Abuse

Is Jesus All You Need for Emotional Healing?

All my life I've watched people stand up in church and tearfully tell how all their problems were solved by inviting Jesus into their heart (a phrase not found in the Bible, btw.) And all my life, their claims bothered me. I just didn't buy it. No therapy. No counseling. No journaling. No learning. No soul searching. No recovery. Their testimonies implied that Jesus healed everything from pain from narcissistic abuse to addiction with absolutely no effort on their part, no...
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ADHD

Writing With ADHD

What's the story?

How does this work? Well, much like any other task, the less time my attention is required, the better the outcome.

And yes, I've written over a thousand posts, but I've done them one at a time ... mostly.

But now I'm in a kind of bad place. Not with the blogs I write, with a novel I was working on.

You see, it stopped suddenly and it took me some months...
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360 of Compassion

Fearless Ideas

Feb 17th, 1600; guy named Giordano Bruno is burnt at the stake. When faced with the sentence, he says to jury: "You who pronounce my sentence are in greater fear than I who receive it."

Elsewhere, in the last months of his life he says:
"There was in me that which no future century will deny to be mine, that which a victor could have for his own: not to have feared to die, not to have...
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Mental Health

Love Is The Answer

"Oh, oh, oh and the silicon chip inside her head, Gets switched to overload, And nobody's gonna go to school today, She's going to make them stay at home" Bob Geldof

It saddens me to see the death of seventeen people today in Florida. And...
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Boredom

Me or We?

Since the perpetuation of the species is the force that drives the longing for connection, it seems that we’d be wired to get along with each other with ease and pleasure, but for seemingly large numbers of us, that doesn’t seem to be the...
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Attraction

The Gift of Service

When the love that a couple enjoys is robust and full, it demands a wider arena for expression. Their grief in not being able to have their own children got poured into their work with the children they work with. Consider the story of...
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- Mental Health Humor By Chato Stewart

Specific Phobia: Fear of Balloons Helpful…

My Worst Balloon Fear Comes True
Love, it's a powerful thing!  Mix that with the fear of telling my wife-to-be that I hate, with a passion, the thing she loves (sorta) more than   Up till now, I've avoided balloon; time was up.

AFRAID of balloons or not, love makes you do strange things! Notice the eyes in this picture of me blowing up balloons for my pre-wedding party (Engagement...
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abandon

Alienated Fathers: Don’t you DARE Give Up!

'I had the plan, the place, the rope,' my husband, Rhys, told me. 'I was going to end it all. I'd been a loving father and a good provider. What I didn't realize is that my ex never intended to stay with me nor let me be a father to my children. I was merely a sperm donor to her. When she had the full quota of children, she took them away and sued me for every pound I made. I...
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Commitment

Are You Holding the “Tension of the Opposites?”

Linda: Loving someone doesn’t mean that we always have warm and wonderful feelings toward them. Love is a stew flavored by a variety of ingredients — sometimes sweetness, spice, bitterness, or saltiness, and sometimes “the works.” Our ever-changing feelings, whether they are pleasurable or...
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Abuse

Kids Used As Weapons by Vindictive Exes

'Your ex wife wants your son dead,' I told my husband, Rhys. 'Terrwyn's* death at his own hand would be you ex's ultimate victory. She's bullying him to death, but will blame it all on you if he succeeds in committing suicide'.

Parental Alienation is wrong. It's evil. But battling exes wielding their children as weapons to wound each other? That's even worse. You know all about it because, if you're reading this article, you've experienced it either as a parent or...
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addiction

The Soul of Valentine’s Day

Linda: I love Valentine's Day. It's one of my favorite holidays. I keep a box of Valentine's decorations in my garage, and hang them up at least a week before the big day to get into the spirit of the holiday. For some people,...
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Attraction

Relationship Breakdowns Are Under Rated

The exemplary marriages we know of have been earned. These relationships are true partnerships, built on foundations of hard-won trust that accrues over time. The struggles and efforts to reconcile what can often appear to be impossible differences create the groundwork for these marriages....
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Attraction

A Gift We Give Our Partner is What We Don’t Say

“Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment.” ~ Benjamin Franklin
Linda: Exemplary couples give each other the gift of clearing. Clearing is a term that describes the process of coming to terms with our own anger without ever speaking to the other person. It is an inside job. There are several methods that we can...
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Mental Health

Jesus Christ Was A Pacifist

"But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also." Jesus 

"But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate...
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Mental Health

The Big Picture

"And in the end, The love you take, Is equal to the love you make" Lennon & McCartney

Though it is an ambiguous and abstract statement I am going to say that the meaning of life is ingrained in being loved and loving others but in the opposite order.
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Commitment

Beware of the Perils of Confirmation Bias

“What the human being is best at doing is interpreting all new information so that their prior conclusions remain intact.” — Warren Buffett
 

Charlie: If you’re like me you’ve often been mystified by others (including your primary partner) who appear to be unable...
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Anger

Addiction and Judgments

“That shouldn’t have happened.”

“What a jerk.”

“I totally screwed up.”

“I am a total screw-up.”

All of these statements are judgments, and all of them have the power to ruin your life if you let them.

Does that sound overly dramatic? If so, then it’s time to get...
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