You Can’t Hurry Trust
Linda: When Joyce and Barry were both twenty-five, something happened that Joyce was completely unprepared for. Barry had an affair with her best friend. Neither of them could lie nor…
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Warning Signs You Overlook in An Addictive Relationship
There is a striking comparison between the DSM-V Diagnosis of Substance Dependence, a synonym for addiction, and the patterns of use, impairment, increased tolerance, and withdrawal found in addictive relating….
A Different Way to View Our Emotions: Q&A with Author Sherianna Boyle
Many of us have a hard time feeling our feelings. So we dismiss them. We stuff them down. We pretend they don’t exist. We disconnect from our feelings, and we…
Is a “Good Enough Marriage” Enough for You?
Linda:Large numbers of people, some single desiring to be married, and some already married but struggling, would be happy to have a “good enough” marriage. In all likelihood, they are…
The New “Mixed Marriage”
Linda: Years ago, the term mixed marriage referred to a couple that came from different races or religions. These days, the term is used to refer to those who are…
Learning To Love
” Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps…
Discovering the Difference Between Comfort Versus Happiness
If I had to pick my top personal weakness (other than math or cooking, of course), I would have to choose “relationships.” Sometimes I suspect my interpersonal radar got a…
Recovering from a Paranoid Romantic Relationship
Amy sat in my office, jumpy, distraught, confused, and slowly crying. “It was like he was two different people. The one I loved, and the one who was so mistrusting….
Addiction and Shame
“Shame is a soul-eating emotion.” So said Carl Jung, one of the most influential voices in modern psychology and psychiatry. Those are strong words, but justifiably so. While shame is…
7 Steps to Make It in a Relationship with a Paranoid Partner
If your partner has paranoia, it may wax and wane over the course of the relationship, but likely it will always be present in the background. Paranoia tends to manifest…
The Cheap Thrill You Get From Putting Down
Faye and Chip had been locked in a struggle for power that was taking an enormous toll on their marriage. Because they both were run by the fear of being…
Easing Your Anxiety When You’re Worried About A Loved One
Have you spent a sleepless night worrying about a loved one? Perhaps it was your teenager who was out past curfew or your spouse who didn’t manage her diabetes. Feeling…
Love In Action
“If a brother or sister be naked, and destitute of daily food,, And one of you say unto them, Depart in peace, be ye warmed and filled; notwithstanding ye give them…
Chaos, Confusion and Control – 3 Simple Truths
Things have been a bit chaotic here in my world. First I got bit by a dog (not mine, thank god), which is not something you ever expect to happen…
Crisis Can Awaken Us
Charlie: In what for most of us is the frantic pace of daily life, couples often tend to forget much about what originally drew us together and focus more on…
Codependency Anorexia—Starving Oneself of Love
Excerpt from Chapter 7 from “The Human Magnet Syndrome:The Codependent Narcissist Trap (2018).” Codependency anorexia occurs when a codependent surrenders to their lifelong relationship pattern with destructive pathological narcissists. The…
Together, Against, Apart
Linda: In the field of couples counseling, a great deal is explored about the together aspect of relationships with attention placed on the critical importance of commitment, open communication, caring,…