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Overcoming Perfectionism

How Women Can Overcome People-Pleasing and Perfectionism

Why are women susceptible to people-pleasing and perfectionism?
While people-pleasing and perfectionism aren't exclusively women's issues, women are socialized in many cultures to be caretakers, put other people's needs before their own, and be passive.

They worry about what other people think of them; they don't want to displease or be seen as "difficult" or "high maintenance." So, they say "yes" and don't make any waves.

American women continue...
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26 Questions to Help Kids Know Themselves Better

Children grow and change rapidly, both physically and emotionally. As parents, we strive to help our children understand who they are, what they believe in, and how to be independent and competent adults. We aren’t trying to raise clones of ourselves, but recognize that our children are separate and unique and we need to help them grow into their authentic selves with love and acceptance.
Why do we need...
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How to Cope When You’re Married to a People-Pleaser


Is your partner a people-pleaser? Does she feel guilty when she says “No”? Does he take on too many commitments and then feel resentful? It can be maddening to have a partner who does everything for everyone else, but has little time or energy for you.


John and Jill argue every year about going to spend a week with Jill’s parents over Christmas. Neither enjoys the...
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How to Stop Being an Approval Junkie

Do you ever image how freeing it would be to just not give a damn?

If you’re an “approval junkie” or people-pleaser, the idea of not caring about what other people think sounds like freedom. You could do what you want, be who you really are, and say what you’re thinking, all without concern for other people’s opinions or judgments.

Approval isn’t all created equally

Even though not caring sounds...
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