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Abuse

Is Jesus All You Need for Emotional Healing?

All my life I've watched people stand up in church and tearfully tell how all their problems were solved by inviting Jesus into their heart (a phrase not found in the Bible, btw.) And all my life, their claims bothered me. I just didn't buy it. No therapy. No counseling. No journaling. No learning. No soul searching. No recovery. Their testimonies implied that Jesus healed everything from pain from narcissistic abuse to addiction with absolutely no effort on their part, no...
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Codependency

How to Cope When Your Child Is Addicted

How to Cope When Your Child Is Addicted
Addiction Can Take Over Your Life – Especially When Your Child is Suffering
When your child is addicted to alcohol or drugs you fear the worst.

Trying to help them becomes your new mission in life. You want so much to protect them from going down the wrong path, but you’re powerless...
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control

Sexy, Jealous Narcissistic Moms (Pt 2 of 2)

As I wrote in Part 1 Sexy, Competitive Narcissistic Moms, "Narcissistic mothers don't allow their daughters to become women in their own right." That includes fertility.

Family Way?


Unfortunately, Jennifer Turpin isn't the only one whose twenties were spent in starvation and filth. At least three other of the recently rescued Turpins are women in their twenties. What if they want to have families one day? Will they be able to? While their super-fertile mother, who gave birth to prisoner after prisoner, was...
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Sexy, Competitive Narcissistic Moms (Pt 1 of 2)

"In this image-conscious age, it is a bittersweet moment for many mothers to confront the fact that their daughter's beauty eclipses her own," writes Katerine Knight for the DailyMail. "It is a rite of passage that most women, while far from thrilled, are pragmatic enough to accept as a part of life. But not 50-year-old Janet." The article goes on to tell about Janet (50) who spent $58,000 on plastic surgery to look exactly like her daughter, Jane (28) rationalizing that...
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#MeToo

Sexual Abuse: Justice Came in A Dream

When the #metoo movement began, I applauded it! But I didn't really think I had anything to #metoo about. When you're brainwashed to "Live Symbolically" as if life is perfect so you only react as if life is perfect, a lot of #metoo's can happen — and you're too ashamed to flinch.

But as time went on, I realized there'd been a lot of #metoo moments in my life I'd blamed myself for. Memories surfaced of...
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Animal Mentors

Why Does It Shock Us When People Act Like Animals

If you are a delicious wild escargot, one place you absolutely do not want to visit is my box turtle Bruce's enclosure, where you will never be mistaken for anyone other than who you

Sometimes a movie comes out that I really want to see and yet for some reason I miss seeing it in theaters. When this happens, there is usually (what feels like) a ridiculously long wait before it comes...
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control

Going Rogue After Isolation: A Control Source for the Turpins, Cults and Narcissists

What do cults, narcissists and the infamous Turpins all have in common? They isolate their victims. And not just physically. Intellectually. Relationally. Spiritually. Emotionally. Every way.

Why? To create a very limited reality of their own design so they can keep you stupid, naïve and thus, controllable. To make sure you don't see how normal people live in case you should yearn for it and, horrors, slip their shackles.

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General

Rapid Cycling

Wednesday and Thursday were bad days. I am under a lot of stress. Serious stress. Life-changing stress. Not only that but smaller stressors. I believe it was Thursday that I called to talk to a counselor at the firm I go to, but it...
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Children

Hillbilly

A transcendent child


Vance is a hillbilly, at least that’s how he refers to himself and his relatives and neighbors in the Appalachian mountains. He was born and raised in Middletown, Ohio among large numbers of hillbilly transplants from Jackson, Kentucky deep...
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Coping Strategies

How to Fix Your Parents in 4 Simple Steps


How can I get my parents to change?

First realize that you can't.  I remember in 1976, when my parents divorced.  I spent the next 15 years trying to wrack my brain for the "why."What a waste of time that was. For one thing, it left me feeling inadequate over and over again.  For another, it wasn't mine to fix.  And finally, there is no why. More like how? But that's for another time. Nowadays my...
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Adoptee

When Adoptees Have Children

For adoptees, having our own children can raise a plethora of emotions, all of which can be difficult to navigate. Giving birth is such a primitive, visceral and life-changing experience, it will understandably make us think back to our own beginnings and of our birth families, primarily our mother. It's not just an issue for women: men who are adopted can and will struggle, too, their own children raising uncomfortable feelings about their...
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Adoptee

10 Things Not To Say To An Adoptee

I thought today I would look at some of the things my adopted parents said to me that I struggled with, things I often disliked, or things that upset me or made me uncomfortable. Of course, everyone is different, so you may have not struggled with some of these examples, as I did, or there may be entirely different issues which presented problems for you. Adopted parents often do their best but like...
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General

13 Things Never To Say To Trauma Survivors

Photo Credit: Matus Laslofl

Do you or someone you know struggle with memories, flashbacks, depressed mood, anxiousness, fear, regret, guilt, or other negative emotions stemming from a history of trauma? If so, this article is for you. As I have stated multiple times in previous articles on trauma, most people not only struggle with understanding what trauma is and how to treat it, but also how to relate to those struggling...
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Coping Strategies

5 Fun Interventions for Teens

Sometimes teenagers are quick to anger and quick to change.  Being able to have a safe place to blow off steam is not a bad thing.  It's much better than holding it all inside.  That's why I have a punching bag in the back of my office. Here are some other ways to help teens in trouble:

 Teens might be mad that their parents sent them to therapy in the first place.  Why me?  Why am I...
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