Warrior of the Heart

“Have you learned lessons only of those who admired you, and were tender with you, and stood aside for you? Have you not learned great lessons from those who reject you,


What Kind of a File Are You Keeping? Part 2

Linda: Keeping track of how difficult (selfish, dishonest, controlling, unreasonable, cruel, stubborn, bitchy, mean, aggressive, distant, cold, shut-down, possessive, irrational, hysterical, illogical, over-sexed, under-sexed, boring, passive,


What Kind of a File Are You Keeping? Part 1

When speaking about marriage: “No other relationship so profoundly tests the extent of our own willingness to be flexible and forgiving to learn and change—if we can resist the allure of self-justification.” ~ Carol Tarvris and Elliott Aaronson in Mistakes Were Made (but not by me)

Linda: Couples are enormously invested in making their marriage work.


Embracing Change

Linda: Changing conditioned patterns is not easy, but believing that change is possible is a good start. Transformation is possible if people find the motivation to do so.


Flow State Together Part 2

Linda: Flow is the ultimate ecstatic experience, the highest level of happiness. A successful marriage operates inflow state a large portion of the time because both partners are meeting challenges with skills.



LindaIt was John Bradshaw who offered a handy distinction between guilt and shame. Guilt is “I made a mistake. Shame is I am a mistake.” Shame is more global,


Crisis Can Awaken Us

Charlie: In the frantic pace of daily life, we often forget much about what originally drew us together and focus more on the business, rather than the experience of sharing our lives.


Life-Long Learning

“Doing something new involves repeated failure, or as it’s more politely called, substantial trial and error.”

–Craig Comstock, Enlarging Your Comfort Zones

Linda: To learn requires being willing to try something new,