What Kind of a File Are You Keeping? Part 2

Linda: Keeping track of how difficult (selfish, dishonest, controlling, unreasonable, cruel, stubborn, bitchy, mean, aggressive, distant, cold, shut-down, possessive, irrational, hysterical, illogical, over-sexed, under-sexed, boring, passive,

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What Kind of a File Are You Keeping? Part 1

When speaking about marriage: “No other relationship so profoundly tests the extent of our own willingness to be flexible and forgiving to learn and change—if we can resist the allure of self-justification.” ~ Carol Tarvris and Elliott Aaronson in Mistakes Were Made (but not by me)

Linda: Couples are enormously invested in making their marriage work.

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Embracing Change

Linda: Changing conditioned patterns is not easy, but believing that change is possible is a good start. Transformation is possible if people find the motivation to do so.

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Flow State Together Part 2

Linda: Flow is the ultimate ecstatic experience, the highest level of happiness. A successful marriage operates inflow state a large portion of the time because both partners are meeting challenges with skills.

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Contempt

LindaIt was John Bradshaw who offered a handy distinction between guilt and shame. Guilt is “I made a mistake. Shame is I am a mistake.” Shame is more global,

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