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Evicting Your Narcissist’s Voice From Your Head

Now I realize The Big Bang Theory isn't exactly the DSM-5. For that matter, neither is Doctor Who. But you'd be surprised how much you can learn, psychologically speaking, from geeky TV shows.

For example, whenever I hear my narcissists' voices reverberating in my mind, I'm reminded of The Table Polarisation, Season 7, Episode 16 of TBBT. In a nutshell, Leonard, my codependent doppelgänger, and his girlfriend Penny are shopping for a dining room table, a piece of furniture...
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Narcissistic Hoover and Discard at Warp Speed

"Ah, this takes me back," Howard commented on The Big Bang Theory. "...I mean, don’t get me wrong, I love your new stuff, but once in a while it’s nice to hear the hits." And it's the "hits," the "classics," the basics of narcissism we're revisiting this month in Narcissism Meets Normalcy.

What I didn't expect was for Fate to put me through a hoover/discard scenario with a real-life narcissist over the weekend. It was amazing how fast it all happened! At...
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Is Jesus All You Need for Emotional Healing?

All my life I've watched people stand up in church and tearfully tell how all their problems were solved by inviting Jesus into their heart (a phrase not found in the Bible, btw.) And all my life, their claims bothered me. I just didn't buy it. No therapy. No counseling. No journaling. No learning. No soul searching. No recovery. Their testimonies implied that Jesus healed everything from pain from narcissistic abuse to addiction with absolutely no effort on their part, no...
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38 Ways To Relax And Change Your Imbalanced Thinking

Do you know someone who is a Type A personality?
Do you know anyone who is a little of both?

Most people would say that I am rather laid back and calm, although my family would say "you are a ball of anxiety!" For most of us, we are a little of both at certain periods in our lives and even ages. A dear friend of mine use to be so calm, even in a fire...
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childhood trauma

Gaslighting: What It Is and Why It’s So Destructive

Gaslight (1944). Ingrid Bergman being gaslighted.

Many of us have probably heard of gaslighting. In this article, we will explore what is behind this concept and why it is so destructive, disturbing, and toxic.
Origins and definition
Gaslighting is a term used in psychology and common speech that refers to manipulation whose purpose is to create doubt in a person or a group of people. It includes but is not limited to denial, lying, deflection,...
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Child & Adolescent Mental Health

The Explosive Personality: Understanding Histrionic Traits

Do you know someone who is emotionally explosive (blowing up at the slightest thing, becoming hysterical over minor infractions), self-centered, rageful, and distorted self-image? Have you found yourself  repeatedly blamed and devalued in confrontations or arguments with this person? Have you noticed this person is desperate for attention, shifts emotions quickly, and "performs" his/her emotions as if they are the center of a stage play? If so, this article is for you.
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