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Coping Strategies

When Trauma was King: 3 Ways to Miss It


When I'm treating patients for depression and anxiety I of course take a thorough history. What is often missed is long-ago trauma that has been repressed and buried. This often re-surfaces in the middle phases of therapy when trust is well-established. No news here. But the news is that trauma lives in the body (The Body Keeps the Score) so when we go back to revisit it, the therapist must go real slow...
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Addiction and Emotional Abuse

“The truth is that the few times he was physical with me were tiny blips on a long timeline of subtle manipulation, public humiliation, controlling behavior and gaslighting.” So writes Leigh Stein of her abusive boyfriend in her Washington Post essay, He Didn’t Hit Me. It Was Still Abuse.

Despite the deeply painful impact of emotional abuse, many people don’t grasp its significance. There are no bruises and broken bones, so does it really “count”?

Our answer: it certainly does. Emotional abuse is real, and...
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Addiction and Verbal Abuse

“You’re stupid. You’re an idiot.”

“What’s wrong with you? You’re crazy!”

“You’re worthless, you’re nothing.”

“You should never have been born.”

“You don’t shape up, I’m gonna kill you.”

All of these words and phrases constitute verbal abuse. That’s why just seeing them on a computer screen can cause...
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Anger

A Paedophile’s Son Speaks Out

When I wrote When Females Rape Males, I couldn't have foreseen the impact it would have. Thousands read it. It trended on PsychCentral's homepage. Many men commented, revealing (perhaps for the first time) their own heart-breaking story of rape at the hands of a woman and its far-reaching impact on their life.

But something else shocking happened too. My husband's uncle, Brynmor1, contacted him for the first time in thirty years. Somehow, he had found the article about Rhys' rape at the...
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Addiction and Sexual Abuse

“We walked into that police station holding the jagged shards of our story, of our childhood, and said, LOOK. THIS HAPPENED. And Officer Paul Smith bore witness. He wrote it down.”

So writes childhood sexual abuse survivor, blogger, speaker, and advocate Laura Parrott Perry in...
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Addiction and Physical Abuse

October is Bullying Prevention Month, so let’s break the silence surrounding all types of physical abuse. Let’s speak about the negative ramifications of childhood abuse, and talk openly about the repercussions.

Specifically, today we’ll clarify the powerful connection between physical abuse and trauma and addiction....
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Did He Kill 18-Month-Old Elsie?

Why is it that when your hometown makes the news, it's always because something bad happened?

My native Caerdyddian's and I have been shocked and appalled as details emerge of the death of little 18-month-old, Elsie. She died a mere two weeks after...
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