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Relationships

Love or Attachment: Which Is It?

My parrot, Pearl, is very fond of fond. The moment a fresh sprig is presented, he leaps on it and starts chomping until all that remains is the dried-out stalk. I think it is safe to say this is an example of "attachment" rather than love!

"Is it attachment or is it love?"

To me, this is one of those deceptively easy questions - the ones we automatically think we know the answer...
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General

Anger and psychotherapy

Working with anger in psychotherapy


To misquote Tolstoy, unhappy people tend to repeat their ways of being unhappy.

They repeat the same psychological moods and states.

Psychotherapy has shown me that attempting to avoid the problems we experience;
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Abuse

Is Jesus All You Need for Emotional Healing?

All my life I've watched people stand up in church and tearfully tell how all their problems were solved by inviting Jesus into their heart (a phrase not found in the Bible, btw.) And all my life, their claims bothered me. I just didn't buy it. No therapy. No counseling. No journaling. No learning. No soul searching. No recovery. Their testimonies implied that Jesus healed everything from pain from narcissistic abuse to addiction with absolutely no effort on their part, no...
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#MeToo

Sexual Abuse: Justice Came in A Dream

When the #metoo movement began, I applauded it! But I didn't really think I had anything to #metoo about. When you're brainwashed to "Live Symbolically" as if life is perfect so you only react as if life is perfect, a lot of #metoo's can happen — and you're too ashamed to flinch.

But as time went on, I realized there'd been a lot of #metoo moments in my life I'd blamed myself for. Memories surfaced of...
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Abuse

Narcissistic Brainwashing: How Larry Nassar Thinks

All your life, you think one way. Your family is fine. Normal. Apparently, love hurts. But you stay because your family convinced you that strangers would hurt, abuse and rape you.

Then one memorable day, you discovered narcissism. And everything changed. Everything. You rethought every relationship, every event, everything your family ever said or did. Your isolation. All your gut instincts, intuitions and hunches.

Suddenly, you realize that everything you thought you knew is exactly the opposite. You were brainwashed....
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Anxiety

What is Agitation?

"Sometimes, I feel like I'm walking on eggshells with you, Son. I never know if you're going to be nice or start yelling." -- my Mom

As you can imagine, this hurts to hear and even more to write. I, like many people with mood...
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General

Part 1: 7 Challenges of Borderline Personality Disorder

Photo Credit: Petras Gagilas

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is one of the most complicating disorders for mental health professionals and researchers. Why? BPD is complicated based on many factors such as the environment (, upbringing, influences, etc.), temperament, genetic predisposition, age at which BPD was identified and treated, treatment recommendations, etc. So much goes into identifying, understanding, and coping with BPD. What makes matters more complicated is the unraveling of convoluted symptoms...
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Child & Adolescent Mental Health

The Explosive Personality: Understanding Histrionic Traits

Do you know someone who is emotionally explosive (blowing up at the slightest thing, becoming hysterical over minor infractions), self-centered, rageful, and distorted self-image? Have you found yourself  repeatedly blamed and devalued in confrontations or arguments with this person? Have you noticed this person is desperate for attention, shifts emotions quickly, and "performs" his/her emotions as if they are the center of a stage play? If so, this article is for you.
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