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Starting this month, and sadly for a while, you'll see and hear a lot about "indulging"---as in Don't! or Do and face the consequences! or Do and be sure to work off those extra calories! You'll see and hear a lot about starting and sticking to your diet, which supposedly isn't a diet (but really is).
Sometimes we hyper-focus on losing weight, because we yearn to feel lighter. Because right now we feel so heavy. Which we assume is because of the number on the scale. In our society, we always assume that the culprit is the number on the scale. We always assume that our weight is the issue, the end-all, be-all issue (and, of course, it's all our fault).
The most unrealistic expectations we typically have revolve around ourselves. And these expectations are especially destructive because once we don't meet them---because we can't---we abandon ourselves. We punish ourselves. Because we didn't get to everything on our to-do lists, we don't let ourselves rest, we get up an hour earlier, and we basically act like drill sergeants. Because we aren't perfect parents, we berate ourselves for everything we did "wrong,"...
You don't love your body. Some days you barely like it. Some days you wish you had a different body. Maybe on many days you do. And when you do, the frustration starts climbing, twisting and turning, and it feels like you're just going to explode. Or it's a kind of simmer, a low frustration but a frustration that follows you regularly.
Many of us fear gaining weight. In fact, it is a fear that's hard to avoid, according to Kirsten Belzer, LCSW, a psychotherapist in private practice in Chicago. Because in our culture, the number on the scale is so much more than just a number. It is so much more than a representation of our weight.