Love Is An Action That Shows Our Devotion

This is a story from a busy couple who both have careers and are in the process of raising two girls. They told me that they had to learn the hard way and that they both suffered from feeling neglected when they didn’t take time to show their affection for each other.


Why is Marriage Going Out of Vogue?

Linda: Many people nowadays consider marriage an obsolete institution. Here are a few of the explanations people offer to explain their orientation.

Adam: “Marriage is a trap set by women to capture men in order to keep the naturally promiscuous male for themselves alone.


Getting Good Help

Linda: Many years ago, Charlie and I went to Brietenbush, Oregon for a couples’ retreat with Stephen and Ondrea. This was during the time when I feared that my marriage was dying.


Rebuilding Damaged Trust

Linda: When trust has been severely damaged, there are ways to promote the healing process: 1) being willing to live in the unknown, 2) holding the tension of the opposites,


Looking for A Magic Wand?

“Reciprocity is a deep instinct; it is the basic currency of social life.” Jonathan Haidt

 Linda: Altruism (in is defined as the principle or practice of concern for,


Don’t Protest, Request!

There is definitely a place in the world for protest, meaning to express a complaint of an action made by an individual or a group. Sometimes it can become necessary to make it clear that we don’t agree with something that someone has said or done.


The Need for Love

Linda: Love is a universal need that is essential to our well- being and is the most important need of all. Love is not just a warm feeling towards another person.


Marriage as a Therapeutic Alliance

The dream of a marriage made in heaven is totally unrealistic…Every man-woman relationship must be worked at, built, rebuilt, and continually refreshed by mutual growth. ~ Carl Rogers in Becoming Partners

Linda: Contained within a marriage is an enormous potential to be a therapeutic partnership.