A Big Do-over

Linda: A do-over is putting a correction in when you realize that you have made a mistake. It’s an opportunity to try or perform something a second time.

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Don’t Protest, Request!

There is definitely a place in the world for protest, meaning to express a complaint of an action made by an individual or a group. Sometimes it can become necessary to make it clear that we don’t agree with something that someone has said or done.

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The Bright Side of Dark Times

The Chinese term for “crisis” involves two characters. One which means danger and the other, “opportunity”. “Opportune”, the root of the word “opportunity means “auspicious, advantageous, and favorable”, a set of circumstances that reveals possibilities previously hidden.

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The Need for Love

Linda: Love is a universal need that is essential to our well- being and is the most important need of all. Love is not just a warm feeling towards another person.

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Confessions of a Recovering Stonewaller

Linda: Stonewalling occurs when attempts to work out a difficult issue have not worked. Due to criticism, reactivity, defensiveness, and contempt, feelings are raging so high that one partner attempts to protect themselves through a refusal to engage.

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Facing Our Fears Builds Strength

The more we withdraw from challenges, the more fearful we become. The problem with avoidance is that the underlying issues don’t get resolved. Fear doesn’t grow unless it’s fed. Whenever we encounter a difficult situation,

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Dependency is Not a Dirty Word

Linda: For many people, the word “dependent” conjures up negative associations with being helpless, powerless, and out of control. Our hyper-independent culture influences many to fear and dread relying on another person.

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A Deal Breaker

Linda: Let’s get clear about what a deal breaker is and what it isn’t. It is any condition that is unacceptable to one or both partners.

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Our Couple Bubble Saved Our Marriage

Excerpted from That Which Doesn’t Kill Us: How One Couple Became Stronger at the Broken Places by Linda and Charlie Bloom

Linda: This vignette occurred in the 1980’s in a challenging time in our partnership,

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Avoiding Explosions

When we see our differences as opportunities to develop our capacities, we begin to meet them with openness and appreciation. This shift in our perspective transforms ordinary conflict into an extraordinary gift,

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Compassion in Action

Linda: Sylvia and Seymour have been married for more than fifty years. We consider them wise elders in our tribe. They still travel extensively and wherever they go they keep up their rigorous work out routine that includes swimming,

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Sympathetic Joy Part 2

Enthusiastic acknowledgment of their successes.

 Who is the happiest of man? He who values the merits of others and in their pleasure takes joy, even though it was his own.

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