Getting Good Help

Linda: Many years ago, Charlie and I went to Brietenbush, Oregon for a couples’ retreat with Stephen and Ondrea. This was during the time when I feared that my marriage was dying.

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Rebuilding Damaged Trust

Linda: When trust has been severely damaged, there are ways to promote the healing process: 1) being willing to live in the unknown, 2) holding the tension of the opposites,

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Looking for A Magic Wand?

“Reciprocity is a deep instinct; it is the basic currency of social life.” Jonathan Haidt

 Linda: Altruism (in Dictionary.com) is defined as the principle or practice of concern for,

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A Big Do-over

Linda: A do-over is putting a correction in when you realize that you have made a mistake. It’s an opportunity to try or perform something a second time.

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Don’t Protest, Request!

There is definitely a place in the world for protest, meaning to express a complaint of an action made by an individual or a group. Sometimes it can become necessary to make it clear that we don’t agree with something that someone has said or done.

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Confessions of a Recovering Stonewaller

Linda: Stonewalling occurs when attempts to work out a difficult issue have not worked. Due to criticism, reactivity, defensiveness, and contempt, feelings are raging so high that one partner attempts to protect themselves through a refusal to engage.

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Facing Our Fears Builds Strength

The more we withdraw from challenges, the more fearful we become. The problem with avoidance is that the underlying issues don’t get resolved. Fear doesn’t grow unless it’s fed. Whenever we encounter a difficult situation,

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