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Good Habits and Bad Habits Share the Same Simple Cause?

It could be that both good habits and bad habits share the same cause, which is the urge to do the habit.

There’s no scientific consensus on the best way to create or break a habit and many struggle to form good habits and break bad ones, including addictions. And when you consider addictions, theories on cause diverge even further. The only ones claiming to know causes of good and bad...
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How a Simple Mindset Shift Can Make or Break Your Daily Mood

Can a simple, unconscious mindset shift ruin your day-to-day life?

A client of mine recently complained that his business was a drag. He no longer enjoyed working his vending machine route, and was planning to launch a Feng Shui consulting business.

His new venture was still young, so he had to rely on the vending machines for income for at least another couple of years.

"It's such a drag, running around the valley, filling up vending machines...
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Overcome Cravings by Separating the Impulse from Who You Are

Overcoming cravings is a key component - if not the key - to overcoming harmful habits and addiction. And there are as many theories about the cause of cravings as there are cravings themselves. No one knows the cause of addiction. No theory of addiction is proven.

So what if we just focused on seeing cravings in a way that helped us resist and overcome? It's not easy, but it might be simpler than we imagine.
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Must We Obey Addictive Urges and Impulses?

Addictive urges and impulses are those moments when you feel an "irresistible" desire, craving or impulse to do something.

That something might be: drink, smoke, gamble, watch porn, binge, yell at someone, bite your nails, or just about anything you feel compelled to do.

Must we obey addictive impulses and ultimately regret our actions?

The answer is either yes or no, right?

If the answer were an unequivocal yes - we have no choice but to obey - then...
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Recognizing the Source of Irrational Thoughts, Fears, Beliefs and Behaviors

It's safe to say that not every part of the human brain is rational. Research suggests that the rational mindset we experience is a recent evolutionary development.

The brain's neocortex is thought to house our rational sense of self. When you reflect upon the type of person you are and what your purpose is, you're using the higher brain.

Then there's the primitive brain - or animal brain - that is decidedly...
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