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Why Our Family Triggers Us—And What to Do

A stranger or even a friend makes the same remark to you as a family member. But it's your family member's words that sting the most. Somehow our family has a way of pushing our buttons---and that's because they installed them. Our family also triggers us so intensely because of regression, said therapist Britt Frank. Regression, she said, is returning to a less developed state.

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3 Nourishing Ways to Navigate Family Visits During the Holidays


Today, I'm honored to share an important guest post by Dezryelle Arcieri, a Washington-based therapist and yoga instructor. She provides super helpful tools and exercises to help us get centered and reconnect to our values as we navigate the holiday season. Reconnecting to our values is reconnecting to ourselves. Which, of course, is a pivotal part of self-care.
The holidays can be a joyous, exciting, and fun time, but they can also be challenging...
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Are You Sure Losing Weight is The Answer?

Sometimes we hyper-focus on losing weight, because we yearn to feel lighter. Because right now we feel so heavy. Which we assume is because of the number on the scale. In our society, we always assume that the culprit is the number on the scale. We always assume that our weight is the issue, the end-all, be-all issue (and, of course, it's all our fault).

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The Pressure to Bounce Back

There's pressure to bounce back after you've had a baby. You're supposed to get back to your previous shape---to fit into your wedding dress, to fit into your old skinny jeans. You're supposed to be just as productive and energized as you were before. You're supposed to be in a similar place emotionally. You're supposed to be calm and content.

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Relinquishing Unrealistic Expectations About Ourselves

The most unrealistic expectations we typically have revolve around ourselves. And these expectations are especially destructive because once we don't meet them---because we can't---we abandon ourselves. We punish ourselves. Because we didn't get to everything on our to-do lists, we don't let ourselves rest, we get up an hour earlier, and we basically act like drill sergeants. Because we aren't perfect parents, we berate ourselves for everything we did "wrong,"...
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Culture

The Most Unrealistic Expectation of Them All

Yesterday, you ran 5 miles, prepared dinner for several nights, completed a complicated work project and organized your entire office. Or you checked off every task from your very long to-do list. Your focus barely waned and the day almost felt seamless.

Today, you showered, put cream cheese on a bagel, and feel like a zombie (or whatever has less energy than that).

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