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When Trauma was King: 3 Ways to Miss It


When I'm treating patients for depression and anxiety I of course take a thorough history. What is often missed is long-ago trauma that has been repressed and buried. Traumatic memories can re-surfaces in the middle phases of therapy when trust is well-established. No news here. But the news is that trauma lives in the body (The Body Keeps the Score) so when we go back to revisit it, the therapist must go slow to...
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Children

Hillbilly

A transcendent child


Vance is a hillbilly, at least that’s how he refers to himself and his relatives and neighbors in the Appalachian mountains. He was born and raised in Middletown, Ohio among large numbers of hillbilly transplants from Jackson, Kentucky deep...
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Coping Strategies

Case Review – The Things That Change You :-)

Just a couple of reasons why therapy helps! Martin - was a grown man with dyslexia.  He was not dumb.  But his wife thought he was.  We worked together for seven years through his entire never-ending divorce to the graduation of his first child, and he finally came to accept himself for who he was: a big marshmallow.  Sadly I came to learn he was killed in a motorcycle crash several years ago.  I could never talk...
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Coping Strategies

Spooked Out Parents – 3 Tips to Lighten Up

With today's festive all-hallows-eve celebrations, parents of teens need to lighten up.

Scary?

Of course teens will get themselves into trouble tonight. They have to. They are actually given permission to dress up and test the boundaries on this night.  In order to learn how to control themselves, they test the waters.  The teen brain doesn't know the difference until it knows.

You just have to be clear that,

Goofing around is innocent, while bullying is...
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Coping Strategies

Nell’s Journey Into Darkness and Return

  I first started seeing Nell because her Father, with whom she lived, said she was involved in self-harming and he knew nothing about it. Like most parents, Nell's father thought she was trying to kill herself, a terrifying thought since his own uncle had done that at the age of 40. Fortunately Nell's cutting was more of the emotional pain release variety, also quite serious nonetheless. Many therapists put self harm in the category...
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Attraction

What May Be the Best Advice Any President Ever Gave America

Like many of us of a certain age, I remember President John F. Kennedy’s famous words that he spoke in his 1961 inaugural address:  “Ask not what your country can do for you, ask what you can do for your country.” Over the years, I’ve found that this advice doesn’t just apply to one’s country but has applicability to many areas of life, and in particular, that of relationships. Yet while most of us would probably...
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