Love Is An Action That Shows Our Devotion

This is a story from a busy couple who both have careers and are in the process of raising two girls. They told me that they had to learn the hard way and that they both suffered from feeling neglected when they didn’t take time to show their affection for each other.

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Why is Marriage Going Out of Vogue?

Linda: Many people nowadays consider marriage an obsolete institution. Here are a few of the explanations people offer to explain their orientation.

Adam: “Marriage is a trap set by women to capture men in order to keep the naturally promiscuous male for themselves alone.

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Getting Good Help

Linda: Many years ago, Charlie and I went to Brietenbush, Oregon for a couples’ retreat with Stephen and Ondrea. This was during the time when I feared that my marriage was dying.

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Rebuilding Damaged Trust

Linda: When trust has been severely damaged, there are ways to promote the healing process: 1) being willing to live in the unknown, 2) holding the tension of the opposites,

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A Blended Family’s Breakthrough

Michael and Jane‘s big challenge was one that many couples in second marriages face: blending two families without diminishing the integrity of the marriage. As all too many know from first-hand experience,

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The Connector and the Freedom Fighter Part 3

John Bowlby, a British psychoanalyst originated the Theory of Attachment. He was attempting to understand the intense distress experienced by infants who had been separated from their parents. Although Bowlby was primarily focused on understanding the nature of the infant-caregiver relationship,

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The Need for Love

Linda: Love is a universal need that is essential to our well- being and is the most important need of all. Love is not just a warm feeling towards another person.

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Complementarity and Polarity

Linda: People with complementary personalities can provide a missing link for each other. In theory, it sounds like this arrangement should work just fine. And in most cases,

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Repairing, Sustaining, & Enriching

If you’ve been noticing lately that you and/or your partner are more irritable, short-tempered, impatient, critical, withdrawn, emotional, anxiety-ridden, depressed, or perhaps, ALL of the above, keep these three words in mind: YOU’RE NOT ALONE.

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Marriage as a Therapeutic Alliance

The dream of a marriage made in heaven is totally unrealistic…Every man-woman relationship must be worked at, built, rebuilt, and continually refreshed by mutual growth. ~ Carl Rogers in Becoming Partners

Linda: Contained within a marriage is an enormous potential to be a therapeutic partnership.

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Avoiding Explosions

When we see our differences as opportunities to develop our capacities, we begin to meet them with openness and appreciation. This shift in our perspective transforms ordinary conflict into an extraordinary gift,

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