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ADHD Symptoms

How a Simple Mindset Shift Can Make or Break Your Daily Mood

Can a simple, unconscious mindset shift ruin your day-to-day life?

A client of mine recently complained that his business was a drag. He no longer enjoyed working his vending machine route, and was planning to launch a Feng Shui consulting business.

His new venture was still young, so he had to rely on the vending machines for income for at least another couple of years.

"It's such a drag, running around the valley, filling up vending machines...
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Character Strengths

Building A More Mindful Society

Mindfulness retreats with world renowned meditation expert and teacher Thich Nhat Hanh (referred to as “Thay,” which is Vietnamese for “teacher”) always include a question and answer session. Participants are invited to pose a question to the wise teacher to get his advice and guidance. Typically,...
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ADHD Symptoms

Overcome Cravings by Separating the Impulse from Who You Are

Overcoming cravings is a key component - if not the key - to overcoming harmful habits and addiction. And there are as many theories about the cause of cravings as there are cravings themselves. No one knows the cause of addiction. No theory of addiction is proven.

So what if we just focused on seeing cravings in a way that helped us resist and overcome? It's not easy, but it might be simpler than we imagine.
Here's...
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ADHD Symptoms

Must We Obey Addictive Urges and Impulses?

Addictive urges and impulses are those moments when you feel an "irresistible" desire, craving or impulse to do something.

That something might be: drink, smoke, gamble, watch porn, binge, yell at someone, bite your nails, or just about anything you feel compelled to do.

Must we obey addictive impulses and ultimately regret our actions?

The answer is either yes or no, right?

If the answer were an unequivocal yes - we have no choice but to obey - then...
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ADHD Symptoms

Recognizing the Source of Irrational Thoughts, Fears, Beliefs and Behaviors

It's safe to say that not every part of the human brain is rational. Research suggests that the rational mindset we experience is a recent evolutionary development.

The brain's neocortex is thought to house our rational sense of self. When you reflect upon the type of person you are and what your purpose is, you're using the higher brain.

Then there's the primitive brain - or animal brain - that is decidedly...
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ADHD Symptoms

Five Signs You’re at Risk of Living a Mediocre Life



A mediocre life is one in which you put forth a mediocre effort.

In the Bible myth, Adam and Eve were cast out of the Garden of Eden, condemned to live by the “sweat of their brow all the days of their lives.”

In some ways, this is an archetype for being born, cast out of the womb where food, shelter, and comfort were instant, effortless, and boundless. The outside world is different. It requires boundless...
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ADHD Symptoms

What if You Realized Part of You Wants to Be Hurt, Suffer, and Ruin Your Day?

Forget whether or not it’s objectively true. Just try this little experiment and see what happens.

For whatever reason, settle into the mindset that part of you is motivated toward pain. This, of course, is masochism. Probably emotional masochism.

If you can get your mind around that, then pay attention during your day to the following:

• Decisions around people, activities, food, and drink

• How you talk to yourself (every sound in your head is your own)

• How often you...
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Books

Mindful Parenting for Fidgety Skeptics?


The cat is still extremely skeptical.
The first time I heard about mindfulness and meditation, I thought it was BS. I thought it was for people who didn't have their sh*t together. I was super type-A and I didn't need that hippie baloney.

And then I had kids. And everything changed.

It took me longer than I'd like to admit to stop being Little Miss JudgyPants and start integrating mindfulness into my daily life. Needless to...
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Beliefs

Labeling your Brokenness – A Good Thing?

Yes, in my opinion. But be careful what the label means to you.

I’m watching a TV series in which people are in the habit of calling their problems and pain “damage.” If you’re familiar with the series, please forget all about it just focus on labeling the wounded, broken, or dysfunctional aspects of yourself.

Is that a good thing? Yes, and it may be necessary.

The purpose of any label is to direct attention. Your name is...
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Addictive Relating

5 (Good) Reasons to Leave a Narcissist


It's not easy to leave a narcissist. Focusing on good, solid reasons is a vital step. It's a necessary momentum to reach a goal vital to your wellbeing and life, in this case, to open the cage door of a toxic relationship, and realize you've had wings to fly away along ... at minimum emotionally.

It starts in the mind, your mind. Not his.

In a sense, leaving him is the easy part. You want to start...
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Meditation

How I Taught My Kids to Meditate

My daughters have abandoned their meditation cushions, so the kitty moved in.

In my last post, I wrote about why I started teaching my kids to meditate. In this post, I’ll share how I taught them, and what I did when they lost interest.

I want to start out by saying that I don’t think formal meditation is the best way to teach mindfulness to young children....
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Beliefs

The Many Benefits of Gratitude

Gratitude. It is defined as the “quality or feeling of being thankful,” yet gratitude is much more than a feeling or a quality. When gratitude becomes lifestyle habit, there are unique benefits which can be experienced at the individual level.

Gratitude can improve health.
It can increase feelings of empathy.

When gratitude is practiced daily, it can:

• Create healthy relationships
• Reduce aggression
• Improve self-esteem
• Increase mental strength.

Dr. Martin Seligman from the University of Pennsylvania found...
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General

Hanna Rosin Dissed Mindful Parenting Because She Doesn’t Understand It

Look how cute they are! You'd never know they were plotting against

As I have written before, I am pretty ambivalent about the current mindfulness bandwagon. On the one hand, I am so grateful that a scientifically supported, ancient wisdom is finally making its way into the popular media and American consciousness. On the other hand, I’m afraid it’s going to get lost in a sea of kale and...
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Mindfulness

The Gift of the Good Enough Mother


“I am not OK with being with a good enough mother. I work too hard to settle for that.”

One of my closest friends (and one of the most devoted mothers I know) said those words to me a couple of years ago, and I’ve never forgotten them. On a personal level, I was heartbroken to realize that my friend was putting that much pressure on herself. On a professional level, I was saddened to...
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