Marriage as a Therapeutic Alliance

The dream of a marriage made in heaven is totally unrealistic…Every man-woman relationship must be worked at, built, rebuilt, and continually refreshed by mutual growth. ~ Carl Rogers in Becoming Partners

Linda: Contained within a marriage is an enormous potential to be a therapeutic partnership.


Avoiding Explosions

When we see our differences as opportunities to develop our capacities, we begin to meet them with openness and appreciation. This shift in our perspective transforms ordinary conflict into an extraordinary gift,


Counter Intuitive Moves

CharlieSeveral years ago I attended a lecture by a well-known spiritual teacher and arrived twenty minutes late. On my way in I asked the doorman to give me a condensed version of what I’d missed.


Guidelines for Getting Complete

Here are some guidelines for addressing incompletions that you may find useful.

  1. Acknowledge to your partner that you have an incompletion. This can take the form of a simple statement such as “There’s something that I feel unfinished about and I’d like to speak with you about it.

Adults Get to Have Time-outs Too

When our kids were small, we frequently took advantage of a time-honored means of averting potentially explosive interactions between us and one of our kids. It’s called a Time-out. For those of you who may be unfamiliar with this mechanism that has come to be a tried and true instrument in most parents’ tool bag.