Healing a Broken Heart

Linda: There are three major ways that hearts get broken: abandonment, inconsistent attachment, and rejection. With abandonment, the person that we were formerly attached to leaves.

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Love Is An Action That Shows Our Devotion

This is a story from a busy couple who both have careers and are in the process of raising two girls. They told me that they had to learn the hard way and that they both suffered from feeling neglected when they didn’t take time to show their affection for each other.

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Are You Afraid to Love?

Fear is the problem and the root of fear is separateness. We transform separateness through compassion and love. So fear is an invitation to engage in practice and to be more loving.

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Why is Marriage Going Out of Vogue?

Linda: Many people nowadays consider marriage an obsolete institution. Here are a few of the explanations people offer to explain their orientation.

Adam: “Marriage is a trap set by women to capture men in order to keep the naturally promiscuous male for themselves alone.

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Getting Good Help

Linda: Many years ago, Charlie and I went to Brietenbush, Oregon for a couples’ retreat with Stephen and Ondrea. This was during the time when I feared that my marriage was dying.

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Rebuilding Damaged Trust

Linda: When trust has been severely damaged, there are ways to promote the healing process: 1) being willing to live in the unknown, 2) holding the tension of the opposites,

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A Blended Family’s Breakthrough

Michael and Jane‘s big challenge was one that many couples in second marriages face: blending two families without diminishing the integrity of the marriage. As all too many know from first-hand experience,

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Don’t Protest, Request!

There is definitely a place in the world for protest, meaning to express a complaint of an action made by an individual or a group. Sometimes it can become necessary to make it clear that we don’t agree with something that someone has said or done.

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The Woman Who Stayed Too Long

Linda: The following are two letters I received from a woman I will call Lucia. She read a blog I posted that touched her, and she wanted me to warn other women to not waste years in a relationship that is draining their very life energy.

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The Connector and the Freedom Fighter Part 3

John Bowlby, a British psychoanalyst originated the Theory of Attachment. He was attempting to understand the intense distress experienced by infants who had been separated from their parents. Although Bowlby was primarily focused on understanding the nature of the infant-caregiver relationship,

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